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writes:I'm a little bit of a confused soul at the moment so I hope someone can help me out. I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years over a year ago. He was cheating and I now find that I have trust issues in all areas of my life, where there weren't any before. I left the home we shared and moved into a new place with a friend. This friend is a confusing character, perhaps a bit sociopathic, and is gay. I find myself, definitely not attracted to him, but needing him around in place of my ex. Someone to come home to, chat to during the advert breaks. But I want to find new romance. Things were so stale between me and my ex, no butterflies and he didn't even respect me. However, I don't seem to be attracted to anyone, compliments from men make my skin crawl. And now, nobody seems interested in me. I was in a better place for a while and hoped that love might find me but as I don't even get a glance in the street I've gone on a bit of a downer. Please anyone, any advice on what to do? I really want to be with someone again, someone to care for and who will care about me. X
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reader, dakotaflame  +, writes (5 September 2010):
 hey i can empathise, because i kinda feel almost the same way. i've broke up with my girlfriend about a year ago, she (claimed she didn't cheat) but broke up with me through a text message and got together with another guy a week after we broke up. so from then on, i too, have honestly never trusted anybody again. :/ i really don't feel sad about the incident or anything but i've grown emotionally weak and dependent on people. so i'm guessing that your "search" has led you to believe you've fallen for your friend because he seems to be always there for you, without the possiblity of hurting you at all (since he wouldn't be with other girls). correct me if i'm wrong! anyway, i hope you don't feel like you're messed up or anything, stick your chin up and be confident! those compliments from men that you detest may just possibly not be the romantic kind of interactions you're looking for, i think most girls feel slightly perturbed when men over compliemnts them too. love will find you, but in any case if you feel it doesn't, i wouldn't advice you to lower your standards or get a guy who doesn't have your interests at heart, just for the sake of wanting to be with someone again. as a guy i've been working out and even taking up a martial art to stay away from any chance of reliance on girls. (sorry i don't really know what girls should do :S!) so yep anyway my point is, cheer up :) mail me if there's anything you wanted to talk to about :) cheers!
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reader, sarahrose20  +, writes (5 September 2010):
i wold suggest go out more to bars n clubs and not neccasaril drink but just relax n see wat happens theres also lots of facebook love connecters and in some cases they do work my friend dawn met a guy threw there 2 yrs ago n theyre stll happily together but as you im sure know men can be dogs so i would just be cautious i would also suggest if you donr have one get a dog he will occupy your time be there for you no matter what n always want to send time with you especial if you take him to the park
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