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writes:Hi well im 15 soon to be 16 years old and i was wondering if you could offer any tips i sort of lack confidence with girls because although they say im good looking, but i can get really shy, but in general ive had problems with my self esteem as when i started high school i tried to get in with the popular ones and they regarded me as a tag along now 3 years later thanks to that i find myself with everyone liking me( i hope :) ) but i have no close friends and im mostly inside by myself, this may be a stupid reason but i was teased alot by the popular ones when i was younger and also i bounce for some reason when i walk making people look at me(although it doesn't bother me too much, so basically my confidence has taken quite a knock
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reader, romany +, writes (5 September 2010):
 Right now then, let me tell you bout the 'popular' lot i went to school with, out of the main 8, 2 are dead thru drug overdoses, 2 are ex drug addicts, who are on benefits, 2 are working at local supermarket and have been for 20 odd years, 1 is now hanging around with teenagers, walking around with a bull terrier, instilling fear into younger teens coz he gets the 'woah he is so cool' vibe from them, and the last one, no one has heard from her.
So tell me......would any of these peoples opinions toward you, matter any???
You know what your about, you know these people who you believe judge you aint worth diddly, you know your liked, your ok with your bounce, (i have a friend who bounces,he says he has a happy walk tho-and its kind of true, its a springy 'happy' walk) So you dont have anything to hold you back, its only your lack of self esteem that can do that, So you need to learn how to rectify that.
I googled how to gain self confidence, this is one link.
http://ezinearticles.com/?7-Tips-on-How-to-Gain-Self-Confidence&id=678417
Keep going with the research, until you find something that gels with you, that you know you can do.
Good luck. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): You'd be better off without the popular ones, they are usually arses! Get in with some people who are genuine and have one or two close buddies who would be there if you were ever in a crisis. As for the girls: join some clubs and just be yourself! Don't put on a false facade as then you havbe to keep it up and that wastes time and energy and makes you look a right wally when you get found out. Good luck!!!!
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