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writes:hi ive got my first date tomorrow with a girl who i really like and she really likes me too. i thought about buying her some flowers for when we meet up. were going to the cinema to see a movie and maybe get something to eat before. i've planned to put my arm around her when were watching the movie but when should i at the begining middle near the end when?also when we meet i was going to hug her but should i give her a peck on the cheek? or should i just kiss after i have walked her home? one last thing when should i hold her hand like when were walking around should i do it straight away or should i link arms with her first and then hold her hand?please help i really like her and want this to work
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (3 June 2011):
 Don't turn this date into a scientific project! The key to a good date is to be attentive to the vibes and natural progression of things. Let what happens, happen. At the beginning of the date, you'll feel whether the moment calls for a hug or a kiss on the cheek. Use your judgment and do what feels comfortable. If you overplan, it can begin to feel very forced and awkward. So, just go with the flow! Relax and enjoy yourself. If you just have fun, she'll have fun too.
Good luck!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (3 June 2011):
 You really are asking a lot of questions about this date arent you! It is very sweet, hope you dont mind me answering again (I think I have answered all your questions so far!)
Flowers are a bit much - you are going to the cinema so it will be a bit of a pain for her (or you) to carry them around all night, and they will start to wilt and die because they are out of water. Its only your first date, you dont need to go over the top with flowers or anything like that. Paying for her meal, or buying her cinema ticket will be far more appreciated than a bunch of flowers on a first date.
In terms of putting your arm around her - use your judgement, go for it when it feels right. Between the middle and end of the film is a good idea, if you tried it around the start of the film it might be a little too forward. But if she is snuggling up to you, or is giving you little flirty signs then use your own judgement, you will get a good idea whilst you are on the date whent the right time is.
As for the kissing - when you first meet up, a hug is fine. Then wait for the kiss at the end, that is a much better idea. A peck on the cheek when you first see her is a bit formal and slightly odd when you have not been on a date together before.
Holding her hand - again, use your own judgement at the time. If the date is going well, then by all means hold her hand. If things are still a bit awkward, then wait until later maybe. But linking arms is a bit like what female friends do, so I wouldnt do that as it might give the wrong impression.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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