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writes: I have a really messy situation with my ex g/f. I could use some advice.Bit of a back story, so i'll cut it short. We dated when we were younger about 4/5 years ago....she was really into me..i was off in lala land and didn't know what the hell i was doing. I liked her but she went off with this other guy 'cos she thought i wasn't intrested. So any way, they split up and all the rest etc. We hooked up last summer and itwas good and bad.I've had a lot of nice g/f's in the past but this is the one i wanted to make things work with. She was my first real love and i lost my virginity to her, (although she doesnt know this). I was going to tell her, i really wanted to, but didnt know how. The relationship was a bit of a nightmare between us, mostly because of the past from the first time. We split up and i acted a idiot, lol. Too many phone calls, every mistake in the play book, i put it that way....because i guess in a way i had to explain things properly to her so's she understood, so what happned the first time round didn't happen again, i suppose. But she got really pissed off and turned on me because of it. Thinking i was possessive or whatever etc...she's now with someone else, and i'm really messed up over it all. I really genuinely want us to get along and be friends, but i know that can't happen until she understands what happened.What can i do? Please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI suppose i want her back some day as my gf but know that she needs to understand thing sos we can build on it i guess, but i would just be punishing myself i guess, i dont really know,she just never comunicates with me, i suppose i cant really do a third time with her and have it go wring its not worht the risk i couldnt handle it.Am i better just to act an asshole you think and try get her out my system?
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reader, imhereforyou  +, writes (5 April 2008):
..hmm in this situation it looks like u acted to slow love is like thunder it can strike you before you know it you need to chill and relax and first of all do u want her as ur gf or just ur friend coz dude if ur gnna make her ur friend it is not gnna work out wot i dnt get is how u cud even think of after having a relationship with her you want to be friends dude that doesnt work out if you want her to be ur girlfriend then u need to ask her to meet up probably somewhere like a cafe or something make sure u sak her opinion on everything and then when your at where ever you and her chose talk and reflect on your past on the good times and any funny times and kick start from there
love is unplanned so let it take its path in your life and when u fall in love get ready to fall and if ur in real love she will be there for you to catch you hope this helped :}
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (5 April 2008):
 well firstly u need to make it clear to your self if u want her as her girl friend or just a friend..wll if u want her as her friend just try talkin to her .tell her u messed up and u are really aorry about it .if she wouldnt listen to you talk it out through a friend..ask him or her to pass on the message to her..try your best to make her understand that u love her or like her by doin things she likes,work things out her way!!if she likes u she will definitely come back..all u need to do now is show the nice side of her to u..so all the best!!!good luck hun..
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