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writes:I have had a nice time with a married man, he's now like stranger to me. Told him that i can see that he doesn't like me anymore and he hasn't spoken to me since i said that. We were good. What can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): You keep saying "we are giving it a go to see how it goes"...this does not sound like he is committed to your relationship over his wife or that he left her because of you...only that he may have left her because she kicked him out....and you are there waiting on him......I don't think you are being totally honest or you would have more to say than we are giving it a go, that sounds like the usual affair talk, i.e. we are having a romp to see if we want to continue with this nonsense, sorry, I call it like I see it, not judging you, don't know you...but these are the facts about extramarital affairs, they rarely if ever end up riding off into the sunset together happily ever after, they are devestating to all involved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFor the people that have called me a liar,you don't know me so don't start judging people when you don't k ow them.Am not a liar.We are giving it a go to see how it goes
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Yeah right, you are together, you went from not speaking to a weekend of cuddling and talking to him moving out, leaving his wife and family and moving in with you....maybe she just kicked him out and he had no where else to go....but I think you are a liar too.
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reader, Smiffy  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 Well...only one comment...you are happy with a man that will cheat on his wife....what will happen when he does that to you....you will not be able to make any comments at all...as you did the same....if his relationship was over with his wife and they were seperated / divorced then fine go ahead...
I just get the feeling when the excitement has worn off so will he or you...
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 I for one don't believe you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe finished with wife last night.We are together
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (7 April 2008):
ah yes and on one of those cold , wet, and dreary Ireland winter's night thirty years from now, you'll be sitting alone huddled on your sofa and he and his wife will be cuddled up on theirs oohing and aahing over the lastest pictures of the grand kids.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): If you ask for advice you have to be open to not getting permission to do the wrong thing instead, everyone here has tried to tell you that you are making a mistake and hurting a lot of people including yourself....you watch, you will wish you had listened to the advice you sought out, we are strangers and we don't have anything to gain by lying to you. Do a search on this site for extra marital affairs and you will see the agony and pain that comes from them and a lot of women who never get their married man.....so why do you think you will be any different? The guy is unfaithful, he is still having sex with his wife, he loves her or he would be divorced, you aren't' going to win him away from her....and frankly, why would you want to? Go find your own man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyou don't have to get so up in a heap. My life and sorry for asking for your advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): But you love him and his wife is not your problem....well she will be soon enough, when you finally get a clue that he isn't going to leave her for you, and that all you will get are his crumbs.
Where is your self respect in all of this? Where are your morals? Where are your values? It does no good to be in love with a married man, your relationship has nowhere to go, nowhere to grow....you are not in love, you are simply in lust....and there are single men out there you could be in lust with, but I guess that doesn't excite you as much as a guy who truly is unavailable to you.....poor you......
Where is your brain?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe are good now.Thanks for all your advice but we giving it a go.We do like each other vey much.I know i shouldn't be with him but i love him.We spent alot time with each other at the weekend and chatted and going to give it a go.His wife not my problem
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): Have you asked yourself why you would want to be having a good time with another woman's husband? Do you ever think of her or how she might feel if she knew her husband was having sex with you? It is just her prob right? How selfish do you think you are, remember Karma is a bitch....you will get your just desserts if you keep staying "in contact" with him again and again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe got in contact today and said that he like me but har and will try see me
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (5 April 2008):
 You need to respect his boundries. He obviously has gotten what he wanted or he has felt guilty about what he got. Either way, he has retreated back into his marriage or at least away from you. There is nothing you can or should do. Chalk it up to a lesson learned. Married men are not available for a relationship.
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