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writes: I'm fifteen years old an my love life is..... well I don't really have one, I have a lot of male friends but i guess they dont get more then a just friends vibe. I REALLY WANT A BOYFRIEND!!!!! PLZ HELP (give me tips, give me some kind of advise) Reply to this Question
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reader, gem123 +, writes (8 June 2006):
well, all i can say is that i always used 2 want a boyfriend and im 13, but once i got 1 i realised that i was better on my own for a couple more years they are not mature enough yet, learn to love yourself before u love anyone else
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (6 June 2006):
 Here's my tip: Look inside your own heart and complete this sentence:
"Having a boyfriend is important to me because..."
...It will complete your life?
...It will validate your existence?
...You want sex?
..."All" your friends have boyfriends, and you want to be part of the crowd?
...You want to kiss someone?
...You think It's Time?
Why is this so important?
I think you're assuming too much about relationships, and making yourself unhappy unnecessarily. Remember, having "a boyfriend" doesn't guarantee you happiness, any more than having a face guarantees you beauty!
Boys/men are people, with faults just like yours. They come in all shapes and sizes and temperaments, and -- trust me on this -- not many your age are mature enough to be tender, or caring, or sensitive to your needs. They're unlikely to support you in times of sadness, with kind words of love. They probably have only the faintest idea of Romance.
So ask yourself again: what will having a boyfriend bring you that's really missing from your life right now?
Try to relax about this. Your time for relationships will definitely come. Not being coupled up at age 15 is a Good Thing, because you have ample time right now to learn to love yourself and to be happy with your own company. Those are important personality traits, and they help win you friends.
And your friends are the pool from which the best relationships develop!
Patience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): Alright... 15 uh... well i'm 19 no boyfriend and loving it. But since you want a boyfriend i would suggest listening to Dr. Pete Thats the way it usually happens... i gained a boyfriend while at the grocery store. And when one finally comes don't be shy be confident. you are probably cute so you just need to step up your confidence level a bit. Have fun boy hunting and don't get frusturated.
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reader, Mickey_Powell +, writes (6 June 2006):
 Take your time! You dont want to pick the wrong person, and you are only 15, u got plenty of time to find love!!
Honestly, good things happen to the people that wait... and trust me it will happen soon enough!! :)
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (6 June 2006):
 Tell me about it!!
I wish....
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): *laughs*
oh to be 15 again....
not. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): Dr. Pete, your advice is as always quite good, however, I doubt that sort of advice would work on someone this desperate. [puts on lab coat and my other pair of glasses] Let's exam the capital letters: "I REALLY WANT A BOYFRIEND!!!!! PLZ HELP"
As you can see, unless you're really far away or blind or blurry-eyed, she REALLY WANT A BOYFRIEND followed by what looks like... [looks through anti-magnifying glass] ...looks like FIVE exclamation marks, then a "PLZ HELP".
[ponders]
This reminds of what I witnessed a couple of days ago. I went to the gym here in the townhouses I live at, and there was a 'couple'. Probably 15 year olds. As I was trying hard not to laugh at the conversation they were having, and try not to slip and break something, I couldn't help but wonder what could they possibly like about each other, except for looks and possibly their wacky characteristics. OH WAIT! That's right - looks and wacky characteristics. That's enough for people that age? Stereotyping, please forgive me.
Alright, brushing my sarcasm aside, ALL YOU GOTTA DO Ms. Lonely-At-15, is take the initiative and ask the guy(s) you're interested out. If that doesn't work... Hey, where is SexyBum when we need her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): Boyfriends / Girlfriends are quite hard to find, unless you go out with any one that shows a remote interest in you!
I guarentee you (and perhaps put money on it, if you're up for it) that as soon as you put wanting a boyfriend out of you live, you'll suddenly mean a guy and get in to a relationship with him. Trust me, it's the way it always seems to happen!
Be happy, forget wanting a boyfriend and you will find one! ;)
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