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writes:Hi friends, please helpI could really do with some advice, from anyone!! I met this girl called K 2 weeks ago at a geography open day at Exeter university, whilst waiting in the lounge and being put into groups, i turned and spotted K amongst the whole crowd, she was dainty, really nicely dressed and these blue eyes were staring right at me with this smile which i cant get out of my head, i looked straight at her and smiled and looked until she turned.5 minutes later i introduced myself, i was quite confident, came over asked her what she thinks of the uni, how her days been, there was a definite connection there, she was very shy but responsive and always smiled, i was polite, talked quite a bit kept the conversation flowing, quite humorous and listened to her. As the conversation grew we asked more personal questions to one another, i realised that besides being beautiful she was multi-talented, basically the girl ive always thought about, a girl who in my eyes is pretty much perfect. I found out she applied to 4 of the 6 unis i have, that she knows 3 of my rugby mates - even goes to school with them and lives only 20 minutes from me and was going to do the same degree as me! Towards the end of the day, i was ready to ask her phone number, until her mum came over and said they and to be off quickly, she looked at me intensely and i just bottled because the mum was there. I told her to take care of herself and ask matt my mate about me.On the sunday at rugby, i saw Matt and told him what i thought of K that there was a definite connection there, so i asked him to ger her phone number or email, i asked him if she had a boy friend he said no, never has.He did, she said no problem just to give him my phone number, on the Tuesday i rang her, it was the Bristol Uni open day on the weds and i asked her if she was going, she said yes, to be honest i was funny on the phone but nervous i hate phone calls! She was shy again on the phone and quiet but responded and laughed when i dd!At Bristol i saw her, she immediately came up to me, she was by my side the entire day and again we spoke a lot, there was definite flirting, we'd be looking at each other and smiling alot, though it was always me who initiated the conversation. I asked her, her email before we left and whether she had msn, she gave it me no probs but said she dint have msn, this was on Wednesday. Since then ive sent her quite long funny flirty emails (15 lines), thought about her constantly, but every night shes replied to mine really late and only about 7 or so lines, really polite and nice more just responding to my questions.The same with texts messaging, shes replied but only after i sent them. On Friday, late at night after she composed her music piece in london and after my big county match, i text her asking her how it went her performance, then suggested she gets msn, mainly so she feels more confident because shes so shy and feels more comfortable with me and can learn to trust and talk easily with me. I new once i sent this text, this was really make or break, cause I know shes not keen on instant messenger otherwise she would have had it in 1st place, whether theres a point in trying for this. She didn't reply to my text and i haven't heard from her all day, usually i know when a girls interested, when im with her i know she is but by text i dont feel it cause its never that bubbly, and she never initiates them. Ive done my best and tried not to be forceful, i know shes really busy and talented, shy so im not sure whether shes ready but usually when a girls interested they respond to a text or email immediately not at 10,.30 at night.Basically what do you think gut feeling, above is the honest truth, im really keen, she in my opinion is lovely, but am I just paranoid or is she just not ready or interested? Id really appreciate your thoughtsThanks so much
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reader, AskEve +, writes (26 February 2007):
 Maybe she doesn't know what MSN is exactly and doesn't want to appear silly asking you. She does seem to be busy (hence her replies late to you). I would send her another text saying - "I hope you're not offended at me keeping in touch, I think you're really smart and kinda cute and would just like to get to know you better. I'm sorry if I offended you" - then send! She's respond, I'm sure of it.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (26 February 2007):
 It's so hard to judge on one day if you have a connection with someone or not. It sounds from what your friend says like she has no experience with guys. That'll just make it much harder for her to emotionally commit, especially with a guy she hardly knows by text message. Most girls start off dating their male friend and work up to it from there. Don't stress. Frankly you don't want to start going out with someone this close to going to uni when, despite having applied to all the same places, you might end up going down separate paths. Try and keep in touch by occassional texts and emails and at least then the connection is there so if you're meant to be together it'll happen. Incidentally I'm at Exeter uni so if you have any questions about that please feel free to message me!
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (26 February 2007):
 Hi,
Its really nice to hear of a guy who is waiting for replys its normally the other way around....
I don't think you have read the signals wrong it strikes me when you said her mother ushered her away a bit fast and that she replied to you late of a night,(perhaps this is when its safe), do you think her mum is very strict and she is embarrassed to tell you?
I had a friend at school whose mother would not allow her to have boyfriends and she was about the same age, it was so hard for her she used to stay at my house to get her freedom, I'm not saying this is the same situation but its worth bearing in mind....
Maybe she is just really shy, give her time but I am sure by the way she has resonded in the past shows there is definatley something there, hey what a lucky girl to have a guy like you around(you got a brother???? LOL)
Good luck sweet heart
let me know how you get on
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