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writes: Hi I am not sure if this is even a problem or all in my imagination...I have been going out with a lovely man for eight mths (we are both 20). I really love him and I know he loves me, we have a very close friendship and good sex life. However we go to different colleges and thus do not see each other as much as we would like to. Recently I feel that he is becoming distant and believe it to be because of his friendship with a girl he lives with at college. They get along so well, i visited for a few days last week and was disturbed at how close they are. they make dinner together every evening, sit in watching dvds together, go shoppin, meet for lunch every day, he talks about her a lot and seems to be less interested in 'us' anymore, he does not seem to mind not seein me for few weeks but instead tells me that he will stay down with her because she will be lonely on her own (her parents live far away), she stayed in his family house for a weekend because she was homesick...he does not treat me like his girlfriend when the three of us are talkin, instead tells me about things they have done together....Am i wrong to feel jealous? is this just a stage that relationships reach? im so confused, i really love him but I dont want to accuse him of something that will upset him if it is just an innocent friendship? someone please help me im going crazy plus i trust him completely i know he would never cheat on me but sometimes its more the emotional cheating that hurts....
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (26 February 2007):
 Hi hun,
relationships are build on trust if you don't have this then your in for trouble, you say you trust him but it is bothering you....Have you tried talking to him you don't have to acuse him of seeing her you could say your feeling a bit jealous of their friendship and that you miss him...tell him when the three of you are together you feel a bit left out, you don't feel like his girlfriend...explain that by not coming to see you is hurtful and you really miss doing things with him..maybe he is just good friends with her and they just click, I think most people if they are honest would be jealous of a friend getting in the way of a relationship like this.
I am sure if he put himself in your shoes he would be feeling the same.. You sound like a lovely girl and sensible so communication is the key tell him you need to see him and spend some quality time together and explain how you are feeling, I am sure if it is just a friendship he will see how hurt you are,
Good luck honey and don't feel bad for feeling like this you love him and sometimes like the old saying says goes
love hurts xxxxxxxxxxx
Let me know how you get on babes xxxx
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