A
male
age
30-35,
*ainy day
writes:So, I met this girl while I was at my friends house. She lives with my friends family during the summer, then goes home which is a 3 hour drive away. When I first met her, she was dating my friends friend. But after the summer ended, she told me she was really hitting on me all summer. 3 months later she basically asks me out and I said sure. She was a virgin when I first met her, but told me that the last BF she had was just for sex. I dated her for about 3 weeks, and then she never talked to me for 9 days because she "heard" I was telling everybody we had sex all the time. She then broke up with me, and later told me it was because her life was spiraling downward and she didn't want to bring me down with her. A few months later, I read on Facebook that she was dating a guy. Later when I asked about it she said to my face that she hadn't dated since me. At my own grad party, she made out with my friend, offered him a BJ, and basically asked him out the same way she asked me out, yet he said no. Throughout the summer I got close to the girl again and we hung out a lot, then at the end of the summer she was making out with a new guy from school only 10 feet from me. A week later she told me she stopped talking to the guy because he was bad news. A month later, the day before I moved away to college, she tells me she loves me and wants to get married and have children. Then I move and she calls me on the phone a few times within 3 months. We started getting close again and I was heading home for a couple weeks in a few days, but I saw on her Facebook that she just started dating a guy from school. I really did love this girl and I still can't get her out of my mind. I HATE hearing or seeing her with other guys. What should I do? Stop talking to her completely? Or give her another try? She probably will only date the guy a month or 2 because thats how long all her BF's seem to last.
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reader, missmel34  +, writes (6 December 2007):
 Well,
We can tell you the simple answer, but sometimes thats not the one we want to hear.
From the sounds of it shes what we term here in Australia as a "slut". Shes been playing you, shes probably being playing alot of guys at the same time. She is one of these unique people that feels it ok to use people as they see fit.
This is fine if your on the same wave length and are happy to settle for a casual arrangement, but it sounds like you're looking for something more stable and meaningful than that. Which is precisely why shes ringing you and telling you she wants to marry you and have kids with you in the future.
These people read us, they know exactly what to say to keep us hanging on. It becomes a game of manipulation.
The best thing to do quite frankly is cut contact with her, shes cheap and you deserve better.
Start dating, meet a more "classier" woman/girl who will actually live up to your expectations.
Good Luck
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reader, KingLeo  +, writes (6 December 2007):
 This girl sounds like more trouble than shes worth. I advise you to leave her alone as far as dating material goes. However these "life spiraling downwards" girls can be interesting once they stop spinning out of control. Let her be for now.
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