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writes:Hiya. I have a little problem: before I got with my boyfriend of 1 year, just before I got with him, I kissed another lad just casually. It happened on some occasions but we didn't take it further At this time my now boyfriend we were just kissing casually as well. Obviously my feelings for my boyfriend have grown stronger and stronger and I really do love him. But me and the other lad haven't really lost contact and we've emailed each like once a month, but he keeps emailing me and texting me. I feel though if I text him or email him back, I feel disloyal to my boyfriend and I feel as if I've done something wrong, like guilty?I don't want to jeopardise my relationship with my boyfriend, but I'd feel mean if I cut this other lad outta of my life. But how can I be mates with him when I used to have some (not a lot) of feelings for him, which were mainly just sexual?
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reader, xlittleredcutiex +, writes (16 June 2006):
xlittleredcutiex is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your advice espicially helen. I talked it over with my boyfriend and he dosen't feel threatened with me talking to the other lad every now and again.And sibaan, i hope you and your guy friend, stay friends because my and my boyfriend, well we used to be best friends until we took it to boyf/girlf, and sometimes i really regret it.
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (15 June 2006):
 Unless you are seeking to cheat on your boyfiend, then tell this other lad the situation amd tell him you love your boyfriend.This has potential to cause you to lose both guys.Make the right choice and remain loyal to your boyfriend.
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reader, Helen Help! :) +, writes (15 June 2006):
 Hey Huni,Well its really upto you in this situation do you think that your boyfriend will go mad if he knew u was textin and emailing this other lad? If he doesnt mind then theres no need to hide it. On the other hand if you think he'll flip its best to be honest about it tell him that you have a male friend tht emails n texts u it means nothing. if you boyfriend trusts you it should be no problem at all n he'll be happy that you told him but again it could go either way and he could flip telling you he dont want you to talk to this other lad if that then happens jus explain hes your friend though and you should be allow to have friends and if he still doesnt have it then you have to decide if you want to risk your realtionship. You just have to make sure that you can be just friends with him i think the less you txt or email each other the better because if it gets to often u might start to feel something for him again based on my experiences lol good luck let me know how things go.Helen x
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reader, sibaan +, writes (15 June 2006):
 thats easier said then done.you need to get it straight in your mind that you and this other guy sre just friends and nothing more.if you trully love your boyfriend then this should be easy. good friends are hard to come by. by best guy friend and i are completely in love with each other but still we are just friends.....
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