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writes: Dear Cupid,I think I might be starting to like this guy, who is one of my best friends' older brothers (he's sixteen and in the tenth grade, I'm fifteen and in the ninth grade, and she's about to turn fourteen and is in the eighth grade). We'll just call him JH and her Kat.JH and I have talked some in the past (like one day last summer, Kat invited me over, and me, her, and JH went swimming in their neighbor's pool and then played football, Risk, and Monopoly with their other neighbor, who is a year older than JH). That was really the first time I've really, really talked to him, and I came to find that he's a really, really, really nice guy. We haven't really talked much since then (except for when I call Kat and he picks up the phone-in which case, the conversation basically consists of me asking him if she's home and him saying either yes or no or in gym class when he's playing basketball, misses a shot, and the ball comes toward me and my friend while we're walking around the gym and I pick it up and give it back to him...in which case the only conversation there is him saying thanks).Well, like I said before, I think I might like him. He's very attractive (I seem to be the only one who thinks so, though...lol) and sweet and funny and just fun to be around altogether. I'd really like to start talking to him more and get to know him and...you know...see if there's any chance that we could ever get together, but...I don't really know how. He's really, really shy, and so am I. And I don't want Kat to get weirded out or mad if I do end up liking him because I really cherish my friendship with her and don't want to mess it up. And the last time I liked a boy, I got hurt really, really, really badly. I don't want that to happen again. Any advice on how to approach him and just the situation, in general? I'd really appreciate any help-even if it's just a teeny little tidbit...lol.SarSar
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2007): same here. I've been liking a friends older brother since last year. Just act like you do with your friends. Im outgoing and I don't usually get nervous around guys, but with him I do. If that's the case. Brush it off and talk to him. Even if it's only a little disagreement or just joking around, it'll soon get to conversation. My best friend knows I like him, and she's just fine with it. She thinks he might like me too. Look for anything different when he talks to you. Like, when youre at your friends house with you and another friend and her. See how he talks to the other girl and concentrate how he's talking to you. Most likely, he'll act differently if he likes you/is interested to you. Go for it.
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reader, emoemu  +, writes (28 January 2007):
Just...talk to him. When he makes a goodsh ot in gym yell out "Nice one JH!". When he answeres the phoneinstead of straightaway asking for Kat, say "How are you?" and make some small talk then say "Hey, is Kat there?" If you're over at her house talk to him. Small stuff that's sort of polite at first but can turn into an actual conversation.
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reader, ingotblue  +, writes (14 January 2007):
 Hiya, maybe when you have him pick up the phone and shes not about start a conversation with him, you know he likes basket ball, try and find out what else he likes so you can talk about it when shes at the gym.
stuff like "did you see the basket ball game last night".
Make sure you know a little about what you are talking about.
then after talking like this for a bit he might not be so quick to pass you on to her.
good luck
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