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writes: I know this is probably a stupid question...but iv been going out with this guy for less than two weeks and he already says he loves me, and he asks me if i love him...i mean yes i really like him, but dont love him as such yet, surly he isnt being serious is he? Is he just trying to be really nice?? Thanks heaps! Reply to this Question
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reader, Big boy +, writes (15 January 2007):
 Well he must really like you, and sure does not want to lose you. He’s just doing a check if your feelings have gotten to that stage, when guys say do you love erm, I mean just say not yet but time will tell. When must guys meet a girl who the like and think is pretty or what they want, they fall for them, especially when she acting the right way all through. So you must be doing something right to get him saying that.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (14 January 2007):
 i do think that two weeks is maybe a little too soon to start saying i love you. Have you known this guy before he became your boyfriend two weeks ago?
If you knew him say a year or so before you got together i could understand where he was coming from, as the love for you would have been building up over a period of time.
Sit down and talk to him, and just be open and say what you feel. Tell him you really like him, and that its only been two weeks.
It may be a month, two months, could even be a year, but if there is love there let it come out naturally when its ready. And when its does it will be a wonderful feeling for both of you.
Good luck x
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reader, cd206 +, writes (14 January 2007):
 I think he really likes you and is mistaking those feelings for love. Quite often with guys our age they seem to say I love you and mean I lust you. In my opinion, at least, love is the comfortable settled feeling you have with someone when the non stop excitement dies down and you're still together, still appreciating each other and unable to imagine being with anyone else. For what it's worth I think he will love you but for now he's a little confused It'll all become clear. If you're a bit stumped for what to say when he says I love you just kiss him or give him a hug or something. He can interpret ur actions however he wants then. Hope this helps.
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reader, heartxbrokenxgurl  +, writes (14 January 2007):
 ok ive had lots of boyfriends n like the next day they say they love me n i say i love u too alot of relationships r different some need time to love their b.f others dont so he could be serious it depends on how long he has been waitin to be ur b.f
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2007): Actually this is not a stupid question. I understand your confussion. My sister went out once with this guy she barely knew (but had a big crush on) and that night after he kissed her he told her that he loved her. Well that was 14 yrs. ago and now they have two kids and have been married for 10 yrs. Also I've had two boyfriends that have told me they loved me, not that soon, but before the timing was adequate to say so. I have concluded that when guys are really into you they could make that mistake. I find it kind of cute. But on the other hand it makes us feel uncomfortable because they are expecting us to say it back. I just give them a smile. In your case that he is directly asking you to tell him that you love him back I would just talk to him. The next time you see him try to sit down with him and tell him that you really like him and that when that liking between two people maintains and/or grows for a period of time it transforms itself into love. And because you've known each other for so little time you can't be in love with him yet. Hopefully he'll understand the deepness of the little word.
Good Luck ;-)
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