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writes:so me and this guy have been seeing each other for a while, but we fall out now and then. today i see him because all of our friends meet up - he doesn't look at me, doesn't really talk to me.i ask him why, he said because i haven't spoke to him in ages. i text him first the last two times and the last text he sent he said goodnight, so i didn't reply. then i don't text him first for a few days and he doesn't text me at all then is in mood for it?!that aside, we got on really well after that, he was talking and slipped up and said this other girls name instead of mine usually i wouldn't mind, except he said the name of a girl he told me he was in love with in may. he said it was an accident, that he didn't want to fall out. but i'm really upset. that obviously means he still loves her, right? he told me he doesn't but his actions speak otherwise. i really like him.what should i do?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 July 2012):
 my father has been with his partner for 16 years and he still slips occasionally and calls her by my mother's name...
I call my kids by each other's name... and the kids get confused and sometimes call me by their stepmom's name and call her mom... (they are grown)
just because someone calls you by someone else's name does not mean they are in love with that person. That's very black and white thinking...
if you have been seeing each other for a while but have frequent falling outs... perhaps it's not a healthy relationship in general?
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (10 July 2012):
Don’t get too hung up about a single slip of the tongue. The only thing you can do to find out where you stand, is tell him how you feel. Don’t send a text, this is the sort of thing that’s best dealt with through a proper conversation. Explain that you like him, and ask him how he feels. It might feel a bit awkward at first but at least he’ll know how you feel, and then you’ll know where you stand on the basis of what he says. It’s a case of put your feelings out there and take the risk, or remain uncertain.
I wish you all the very best.
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