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male
age
36-40,
*txi
writes:I met this lady about a month ago now, asked her if she would like to meet up for drinks and we had a fantastic time, then we met again a week later and had another great time.Then we went round my place a few days later to cook and watch films. Which was also fun, but things got very physical, while we didn't have sex and she wasn't pressured it still made her feel a bit off the next time we met a week after that (following this? Sorry it's a bit all over the place)Anyway, when we did meet for a coffee she seemed a lot more distant and eventually we got round to her trying to avoid relationships when she is studying to avoid distraction, and how when things got too physical it stopped her from really forming a bond (she takes things slowly, which I respect) She mentioned not wanting to feel trapped and how she was getting used to being single again, I accepted all of these things calmly and just said that I like her and want to see how things go, no pressure. She then mentioned that normally if things got like this then she would avoid the guy but she didn't want to do that with me.Anyway, after this chat we got into talking again and the conversation soon returned to what it was normally like (very good). We linked arms on the way back until we got to the halfway point (I normally walk her back home but she didn't let me because it was raining heavily) We then kissed goodbye and things seemed fine.Now, I normally have a problem with being a bit too clingy in a relationship, I can't help it. But a few days later I just sent her a text to ask how she was doing, she had a cold and loads of university work to do, so we had a brief back and forth and then said goodnight to each other. I haven't contacted her since (2 weeks ago now) and all I have had back is a facebook message with a cute picture of some animals hugging and the message "night tight huggles xxx" about a week ago.Now I'm not sure what to do, I want to see her again but has she decided that she doesn't want to risk her education? Should I just give her more space? I just want to send a quick "Hi, how are you?" message but would it be too much?Thanks for taking the time to read this, hope it makes sense. :)
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reader, Itxi +, writes (22 November 2011):
Itxi is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well I can be a right idiot at times, saw the advice and then sent her a text straight away, it's quarter past 12 in the morning...
Ah well I'll explain to her when we chat, if we do chat.
Thank you :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 November 2011):
 No it would not be to much, it would show her that you care for her and it was not just a bout the physical side. By reading your post it is obvious she felt that it was moving to fast and she wanted to make sure to take it slow and to make sure it was not just a quick fling you where after. So yes drop her a message and tell her you are thinking about her and ask her would she like to catch up for a coffee if she has time.
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