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writes:ok, I'm a little lost, any advise is greatly appreciated, first of all, I have always had a problem with confidence, I fight for it everyday and I believe I am doing ok but still get very anxious. I have also never been in a relationship. The problem is A girl moved to the same town as me about a month and a bit ago. I met her cause she got a job at a small store I work at. anyways, we got talking and ended up hanging out everynight for 3 days and talked alot the fourth night on msn. Anyways, I really like her, but have kinda found out that she had a boyfriend right up until she moved. I don't know if she is still in love with him or what because its such a short time ago it kinda bugs me. We both kinda said we liked eachother on msn which may or maynot mean alot with how quickly we moved on in the conversation.What are your opinionsThank You
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reader, Tsu  +, writes (9 October 2008):
 lol wow bro, that does sound like its a sucky situation. But hey, you say you don't have much confidence, lol well someone stumbled on your post who has alllll the confidence in the world!
Alrighty let's get this started. 1st off, make it clear in your head, that unless there is a ring on that finger, it's still fair game! I've seen people together for like 5 yrs then BAM! Over with. After all, it is just a title...
So, sounds to me like this girl and you really hit it off, going from acquantinces ( however the hell ya spell that lol ) to being like, best friends.
I mean, even chatting on msn? Seriously only best friends would do that lol. So, the best relationships, always start off with couples being best friends first.
So man, I recommend ya just keep in touch, and then move onward from msn to phone calls. And then, keep calling maybe once a week, and then maybe every 4 days, and well, soon enough it will be every other day, then to every single day, and then to where she can't go a day without hearing ur voice!
Once that feeling has set in, all she needs is a one lil fight with the "boyfriend" and guess who she will go to? Yep, ya guessed right! YOU
And then, you tell her how wonderful she is, to stop that crying and give you a smile, if she says no, say something funny like,
"Say what? I KNOW ya just didn't tell me no. Don't make me come up there!"
then she will give a little giggle, and say you're right etc etc
But always make sure ya let her know you wanna be more than friends, but when the time is right. Only you can judge when that timing is.
So yea, don't worry about some guy having the title of "boyfriend". Unless it is declared by a ring that she is taken, well, lol she isn't! So don't give up man, remember, there's a reason why she hung out with you, and talks to you on msn. If she DIDN'T like you, would she have done those? answer = no.
So go for it bro! Only got one life, and the saddest words you will never EVER want to say, are these.
"Could've, Would've, Should've" DON'T let this possibilty go away...
As they say, LET THE GAMES BEGIN!!!!
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