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36-40,
*mems
writes:Hi, my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time a little while ago. I have never climaxed (even on my own) so i wasn't surprised when I didn't. I explained to him that orgasm is not something that comes easily to me, and that it's not his fault, we just need to work on it. What's really strange is that now he has stopped climaxing too. I've never heard of guys have issues like that. It's really frustrating to feel like neither of us is having an orgasm. We're both so new, even though we talk about it, we both have no idea how to fix this problem. any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): I think its more common than you think and he is either in sympathy with you or has control and is worried that he is using - e.g. he comes but you don't, he will feel bad.
I would abstane a little from full sex and use hands and mouth and see what happens for a while. Best advice though is to talk to him find out....
Have you tried a toy, maybe a simple clit vibe at all?
the hardest part is not to worry - by worrying you end up falling off. Its bit like saying "don't look down?" you immeadeatly do.... and fall over...
Hugs Star.x.
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