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writes: For months i had lusted after this lady i ran into at a friend's party. She is tall, beautiful and a succesful professional. She lives in her own home with her son, so it was convenient to visit her.After weeks of heavy dating, she finally allowed me into her bed. After she stripped, there was this horrible smell coming from her private part. It was all i could do to make love to her.Thinking it was one off and had to do with her periods,I tried again but the same thing happened.I like her alot but not enough to stomach her horrible vagina odour. Should i tell her or simply move on. Thanks.
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reader, enricorosan  +, writes (27 September 2009):
First, I know that this is an old posting but maybe I should share my own story .. I also had the same experience with a young beautiful woman that I cared about a lot a long time ago. Her vaginal smell was extremely strong that made me almost tell her that i changed my mind about making love that night(It was my first time ever with a woman that I cared about). It was so bad that it almost made me throw-up . So, I contained my reaction to it by telling her that I had to go to the kitchen for a drink because I was extremely thirsty which was a pretense and that is where I had time to regain my composure fortunately, i decided not to hurt her feelings because it would have been detrimental to her self-esteem. what I did was: I told her that I like doing it in the shower. So, not only did I make love to her but I also gave her a nice bath without her knowing that my intentions were to get rid of her terrible nauseating vaginal smell. Also, I suggested to her to put perfume on herself because it turned me on. Our encounters lasted for a few weeks but then I had to end it by telling her that I was not ready for a long term relationship ( she wanted me to marry her). I knew that no matter what I did her vaginal odor really was an impediment to our relationship and it was truly disgusting and I can not live with that . It is very difficult to tell another adult that they have hygiene issues and that they have to bathe because they smell bad. The early formative years in both men and women determine how they will take care of their bodies' hygiene. The important thing for me was : I never hurt her feelings by telling her the truth. As far as I am concerned It is better to end a relationship in the early stages than to hurt your partner's feelings. Medical problems as well as hygiene issues and obesity in both men and women are sometimes insurmountable problems in a relationship. I also think the sense of smell is one of the important aspects in sex. That's my opinion. I hope I did not offend anyone in this posting. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2006): I can understand your problem as I have also been in the same situation. But don't give up. There are remedies out there that can help a great deal. It's a sensitive subject with most women so the biggest problem in how to approach her to get help. If you really have a good relationship you should be able to talk to her about it. Here's a site that may be able to help you a great deal, at least it will give you a better idea of what's going on. Good luck. http://www.vaginalodorbgone
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2006): what about this idea! before having sex' say's honey what about if we take a shower first together and you help her with a soap' I believe using a soap without too much perfume is better.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (26 August 2006):
 Juliette is right, whenever you do something too much it has the opposite effect. I mean take me for an exampl,I love to smell strongly of perfume, because I believe that a womans scent is something that gets a mans attention, so I do go a bit over the top with the body spray and perfume, so much so that I have got an allergic reaction to it!! In this scenario, maybe she is using the wrong soap or shower gel and its messed up the alkaline and acid levels producing a smelll whichmay not be very pleasant. It doesnt mean that she is dirty, far from it. Why dont you try and tell her but ina joking way, so she gets the message but is not hurt by it. Good luck. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2006): Don't give up on her without at least a try... There are a few products on the market to de-stench down south so-to-speak. She is probably washing with a soap that is too high or low in php so, best for her to stay neutral ie just water. How do you say this? I don't know...Maybe "take" her in the shower and grab her hands if she goes for the soap.....!If this doesn't work, then...I think the best way to tell her is when you're holding her close. You could maybe mention something that you're worried about concerning your own health. Something mild that can be cured by visiting the chemist. (Just make it up, if there's nothing wrong with you, eg foot fungus). This will be the perfect opportunity to mention how you might be concerned about her health, too. Say that you noticed a difference in smell from the first time and that there maybe a mild infection that could be treated. Say that you could take trip to the chemists together. Hug her and hold her close, while you say this and make sure you are in a private place , with no one listening...it's important. Also, best at a time that it's practical to just quickly pop to the chemist.Hope this works...
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reader, Juliette +, writes (25 August 2006):
 Does it smell of wet fish?
If so, it is because she is 'clean' and an infection women often get from washing too much!
It is called bacterial vaginosis and is a watery discharge, sometimes accompanied by a bit if irritation. It is easily cleared up by Metrondiazole from her doctor. If it is this fishy smell, it is not a sexually transmitted disease and is nothing to worry about, just needs treating.
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