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writes:[Mod note: 2 questions by same poster combined.]Q. I'm a Freshman in High School, and I feel kind of like the rock that hasn't rolled in with the tide. While all my friends are chatting during lunch about how and where they last had sex, I've never even kissed a guy before. Everyone tells me that I'm beautiful (and I certainly don't think I'm ugly) it's just that I'm already 6"0 and taller then 85% of the guys at my school, and I'm kind of really shy. I can't be first to talk to a guy I've never talked to before, especially if I like him.And I do like this one guy. I actually really, really like him. Like, a ton. Lately he's all I ever thing about, and I wish the one class I had with him would last forever. Now, the problem is that I've never really talked to him before except for mumbling "Excuse me" like, forever and a half ago. I keep trying to talk to him, and it should be really easy since everyone in that class is so talkative and comfortable with each other, but I really can't do it. I don't know what to do, I've tried everything. I'll sit and talk with his friend, someone I've known since kindergarten, but I feel like no matter what I can't ever actually just talk to HIM.Please tell me what to do. I'm really starting to hate myself for being so fucking shy, and I just want to talk to him. I can't believe how much we have in common (Sounds kind of stalkerish, but I'm on his facebook like 24/7...) and he is really so sweet. Not all that attractive, but he's not ugly either. I don't know what to do. Q. Also, I really, really like this guy. Like, a ton. But his best friend is a female, and I'm scared to talk to him in case he has feelings for his best friend... They're really close, and I dunno. I just don't know what to do. Is it possible that he doesn't have feelings for her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): heya, i dont know if this will help but i really hope it does. well i was shy once too, in exactly the same position, id be the one sat there at the table, with my head down, whilst everyone was talking about who they had sex with at the weekend, and i know how low it can make you feel. but you need to be strong, im sure your an independant girl, and by the looks of it i can see you know who you want. well all i can say is go for it? i did, one day i took a deep breath, walked over to him and told him how i felt, if you feel to uncomfortable try speaking over the computer, or texting. thats always the easier option. im sure the right guy will find you soon, there is a mr right for everyone. dont worry about that 3 i promise that things will get better, you will develop confidence skills as you grow older, but its only yuo that can really help youself with that? why not ring him up, no practicing before. just let it all out, and then everything will come to you and youll get the hang of things. dont worry about your height or what you look like, its about what sort of person you are, and for you to have the guts to ask for help shows that your a strong girl. try and make yourself comfortable around the boy, show him the real you. then if anything does develop, yuoll be able to be your complete self, and you wont need confidence, honestly. keep your chin up and go for what you want xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): take a chance just practice like how they do in the movies and then u can walk up to him take a deep breath also go with ur friend she will help u through every thing and just take a deep breath and try ur hardest to talk to him it worked for me and that is how i got my first bf
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reader, Learner.uk  +, writes (16 January 2011):
 Hi, have you thought of talking to his friend about stuff as you have known her for a while? She may be able to help out...now onto your shyness, you say you are prity and others have so you should be confident in yourself, practice what you would like to say to him if you like him that much, also think of other points to talk about...maybe get talking to him when his friend that you know is with him and slowly build on your confidence around him to relax, listen and show interest to what he says and ask questions back, once you get use to doing this you should relax more before asking the important question or just asking if he fancys meeting up? Just a few ideas, hope they help abit, main thing is get talking to people, your height is not a problem i have several girlfriends over my height and im 6.1ft.
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reader, omfgbabygirl  +, writes (16 January 2011):
Hey hun.
So the first thing I haave to point out...WHY ARE YOUR 14 YEAR OLD FRIENDS HAVING SEX?! I don't know what state your from, but that's WAY too young to be having sex. At your age, there is no reason to do something that is for ADULTS.
BUT, about your question, dating and playing the field is OK. If you like the guy, talk to him. Simple as that. Add him on facebook and try to see what he likes. If you have stuff in common, roll with that! Kissing and oral sex is ok to play with, but intercourse at your age can cause problems for you.
Please please please don't give into peer-pressure. I think you should re-evaluate your friends if you say that they talk about "where they had sex". Don't do anything unless you are FULLY ready. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): Hey I completely know what your going through, I'm a sophomore and last year I had a similar problem. I wish I could tell you that relationships gets easier the further along you get in high school but they don't. I felt the same way as a freshman than you do right now. I felt like everyone was 3 steps ahead of me and I would never catch up. But I've learned that what you really need is to focus on yourself and what you want in life. I know it's hard not to think about guys all the time at school because lets face it just about every time you turn the corner there is some couple making out. lol but just trust me , try to do what's best for yourself and when your least looking that guy will find you. I know it sounds cheesy but if it happened to me, it can happen to you. And as for being shy, just convince yourself that he's just like any other gut in your class. Ask him about a football game, with help on a question or something. Try little things at least to get you started.I know boys can be some of the most confusing things on the planet and I hope I was able to help. Don't worry your prince charming might just be a little shy like you too.
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