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*yinkansola
writes:I have a boyfriend that I love so much, but I dont think he loves me the way I love him... the reason is because I call and text him almost every day but with him it's not like that. I asked him last month, why is he acting in such manner? He said nothing.. I asked if he still loves me? he said 'yes' but still yet he doesnt change. Sometimes when I send him text messages he doesnt reply. I am getting fed up, I tried falling out of love him but I cant!! Please help me coz I dont know what to do...
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reader, Oyinkansola +, writes (4 February 2010):
Oyinkansola is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks so much 4 trying to help me out,,,am gonna take u guyz advice one step at a tym and see how things go.am jst scared of these distance btwn us and thats why i kip tryn 2 get intouch wit him through telecomunicatn.bt jst as u all adviced,,,am gonna try nd let him be the pursuer and not me!!tanx somuch i really appreciate it.
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reader, urdudekoolin  +, writes (4 February 2010):
Well I think you are too much pressuring him. You are true in you feeling and you way might be correct for you. Bt how to show your feelings differes from person to person....
So you may respect his independece first. N you shld not at all judge some one from the how much he text you....
Rather you must find out by other ways whether he loves you or not. Like hw much he take care of your feelings, how much he anticipate what you like or dislike, how much he makes sacrifices/ shw concern to your feelings
Try this before concluding some thing.
N once you found a result accept it and do accordingly....
There can never b a one sided love. Bt before any decision try to judge genuienly..... Best of Luck
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reader, Ekel1982  +, writes (4 February 2010):
I agree completely with those other answers, love has nothing to do with text messages or calls, guys minds are wired differently than ours, they don't feel the need to communicate as often as we do. The next time you think about texting him DON'T find somethin to distract yourself and wait for him to contact you. You won't be waiting long!!! Good Luck
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reader, Tigerlily  +, writes (4 February 2010):
It's basically biology... men like to be the pursuers. You have taken that away from him. You are the one always pursuing him. Give him the gift of letting your man pursue you. Men want to win a woman's love... not get it on top of their heads 10x a day. You need to back off. Let him come to you. Just go about your business and get involved in your own life for a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): A few texts or a call a day arent much if you love each other. As he diesnt always respond it might be that he doesnt love you in the same way that you love him. Do as the others say and stop calling and texting him. If hes really interested in you he will soon start making contact.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (4 February 2010):
 Just because he doesn't call or text you every doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't love you. Men and women are different, and alot of guys just aren't into phoning and texting. My husband doesn't like to text or email me unless its absolutely necessary, but I know he loves me. How does your guy treat you? How does he act around you? That is what you really need to look closely at. If he treats you well, and seems happy to be with you, those are indicators that he cares. You can always try talking to him and telling him that you wish he would call you more, or text you back, and see how he responds. If it bothers you that much, then perhaps you need a guy who is more attentive?
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (4 February 2010):
 You are pushing him too hard and probably driving him crazy. This is way too much attention. Stop calling and texting and then he will miss the texts, wonder what is going on and then contact you. You may need to give him a little space. Also at work it is hard to be able to text all the time as you often have to work or have your phone switched off. Try to cut your texts to one a day for a week and see how you get on and what difference it makes. Let him to the chasing.
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reader, jc82 +, writes (4 February 2010):
 It will be hard, but stop texting him and calling him. And keep your eyes open for other boys who might like you, the way you like him. I think you are right when you said he doesn't love you like you love him. Maybe you should try to find someone else.
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