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writes:Hello,I really really like one of my guy friends and I would like to be in a relationship with him someday. We have a lot in common and have the same career goals. Hes a really sweet guy who works hard and is fun to be around. We hang out sometimes but I never really told him how i felt. I am really nice to him and show him that i care about him. I wanted to know if stopping by to say hi without calling before hand (you know if you pass his house on the way home and he was on your mind kind of thing) to a guy friend that you like is acceptable or if it would come accross as being desperate. I would not do it much cause it may get annoying after awhile. I never did it before and i just wanted to know if it is okay for a friend to do that to a friend. I appreciate your help=) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey I just wanted to say thank you for all of the replies. I really appreciate it. He's single right now and does not have a girlfriend and he hasnt had one in awhile. But yes if I did find out that he had a girlfriend I would be pretty upset. But as of now he doesnt.
Thank you all again
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (29 March 2008):
 As a friend, he might appreciate you just passing by to say hello, but what will you do if he had a girlfriend round at that moment?
You haven't said whether he has one or not, and you could be upset by it.
You could, on the other hand - just call him or text him as you're nearing his house, tell him you're local and about to pass his place and suggest that if he's not doing anything at the moment, if he fancies going for a drink or a coffee or even a movie, see his reaction and take it from there. You wouldn't be appearing desperate if yo did it that way at all.
Perhaps he'll respond straight away and agree, maybe even invite you in, you'll never know until you try.
Keep us posted and Good Luck.
Big Sis xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): No gifts and cards are too much at this point, just stop by to say hi, maybe ask him if he would like to catch a movie, matinee with you....on saturday?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for the help. I want to catch him with his guard down so he can get the idea that I really care for him. He seems to enjoy being around me so i think he will probably act nice. Should I stop by with a gift or a card or something? or just stop by to say hi.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): You know him best and know whethre or not he would react positively. If you want to find him with his guard down and want to make an impression that you like him quite a bit then I guess dropping in on him would catch him with his guard down, which is what you want him to do first, lower his guard so you can get closer to him.
But I would only do it once, until you got the idea from him that you have those kind of priviledges. It is always more polite to call first, though.
Good luck.
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