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writes:I have realized I'm a lesbian for at least a year but Im just barely starting to come out to a few ppl. I have always thought I was straight. I was taught as a little girl that being gay is sin and wrong. My father is also a minister. I started talking to this girl I like but things didn't end well. When my mother found out she started crying and made me feel horrible. She said she felt as if I was choosing some girl I didn't know that long over her and that I was raised to not be like that. I feel torn and guilty between following my heart and exploring this side of myself and displeasing, dishonoring and hurting my family who I love very much and has always been there for me and loved me no matter what. Right now Im thinking about moving far away so I can be more on my own
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reader, hojo1114  +, writes (19 June 2011):
you have to be true to your self there is no point lying to your self. also your perents will love you no matter what.
hope all goes well xx
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (12 June 2011):
 Follow your heart. Being gay isn't something you can just turn on and off, it is part of who you are and to deny that will probably hurt you far too much in the long run. It will be tough for a while but because your parents do love you they will accept who you are eventually. Some time apart may be good but right now you only have to think about what will make you happy in your life because in the end that is what matters.
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reader, Ima FreAk! +, writes (11 June 2011):
 Hiyaaaa,
Wooooow. Your daddy a minster wooooow that your a lesbian that is really harsh. I can't imagine what your going through!
Are you sure for definite that you might be a lesbian?
If you are then I think that the best thing for you to do is come clean. It might be disrespecting family but what if you have to marry a guy and have kids and then come out as a lesbian and then get a divorce? That would be crap!
If your parents truly love you like I'm sure they do... if you come out to them it might take some time for them to realise but at the end of the day your their daughter and they gotta protect you and if you made up your mind they should support you through this.
Try and mend the relationship with your mum and tell her why you need her to support you through this dark time because she will understand I mean she is your mother she will be understanding to you.
You don't need to be afraid because heyyy baby its the 21st century!!!!!! Things are changing and people are realising things and as society we gotta except it whether we like it or not.
If your really upset you could join a support group because they can help and talk to people, talk to your teachers for advice and friends.
Hope my advice helps!
Don't be afraid to show your true colours :)
Good luck!
Lots of love,
Ima FreAk!
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