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*arliee
writes:This guy named Matt broke up with me like 2 or 3 days ago. Because I kept on saying that he doesnt like me and he flirted with other girls lots. I showed him a picture of me sliting my wrist, which I thought didn't really helped -- i wasn't that kind of person who would do that. He said he's going to give me a second chance. But I got to make him like me more than he does now. He felt so sorry and bad about him dumping me. He sometimes ask if i like/love him still, i said yes. I asked him he said, sorta.We decided that we will still hang out, hook-up and do stuffs we usually do(act like were still together). Me and him doesnt want anyone to know about us -- that he dumped me and were not going out. Everytime I bring up the good times we had, he said he feels bad and like shit. He said if he wanted me more than he does now, he might ask me out again.But if he did, do you think I should say yes?Do you think it'll work for us?Do you think he's just using me?What should I do?
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (6 October 2008):
 I get the feeling you have emotionally blackmailed this poor guy into getting back with you, he is probably terrified now that if he finishes with you, he will have a suicide on his concience.
I'm amazed that people actually are happier having someone with them against their will than moving on and finding someone that genuinely wants to be with them.
It smacks of insecurity. No I dont think it will work. Unless he's a very clever person, he isn't going to be able to convince himself forever that he can stay with you, if he really would rather not, and he will take the risk and end it anyway eventually.
If he is flirting with other women, he probably wants to get out there and experience different people, in which case, he did the right thing ending it.
There will be plenty of guys out there that like the way you are now, and you wont need to change.
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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reader, Taylor-x +, writes (6 October 2008):
 Rite basicly darling this guy sounds like a complete dick! Asking you if u love him- you say yes and he says 'sorta' when hes the one who dumped YOU! i dont get it! you sound like a lovely girl and you dont really deserve this! if you do really like him then id say stick with it because it wouldnt be worth the heartache again. But youve gotta weigh up whats gonna hurt more falling for him again and then him dumping you again or leavin it now and moving on? x To be honest there nothing worse than your man flirting with girls in front of your face and if he really respected you he wouldnt do it. Talk to him and ask him if HE wants to be with YOU. and if he keeps giving you this crap that youve gotta work harder so he wants you more. kick him straight in the head!, find a better guy who will treat you right (like you deserve) Then all of a sudden its gonna dawn on him what hes lost and this guy will feel like a total ASS that he ever let you go!Best Of Luck..!Mail me and let me know what happens! xTaylor x
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reader, leanne _a +, writes (6 October 2008):
 hello hunni He should love you for who you are not feel sorry for you a bet ur a beautiful girl with loads of boys after you ! your still young you get you self some new clothes take the girls out with you to help get a new outfit get some new make up and do your hair and am sure you will knock him dead dont see him on that day then go out with him all dressed up and show him how much attention you get off other boys and am sure hel think god am lucky You need to hold your head up and think if he wants another girl let him go thers plenty who would have me !!! GD LUCK XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): I think its important to know that you cannot make someone love you. If you push someone to be with you, chances are they will become suffocated and feel trapped. It is not cool to play around with suicide pics whether or not you mean it. That is called emotional blackmail AND besides why would you want someone to be forced to be with you? You are so very young focus on school first. I don't think you are mature enough to understand what a relationship is all about. Give yourself time.
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