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writes:So here's the situation.My ex broke up with me months ago. I'm insanely in love with her. In the months following she would hold my hand and stuff, but tell me we can only be friends "for now" then she got a new bf, and i figured it was time to move on. I had been talking to another girl for a few weeks. Problem #1 is that girl was/is her best friend. So i started to date her best friend.. and when i did, even tho she had a bf she got all upset, not that it was her best friend but because she said she still loved me and her current bf wasn't going to last. But it's been a while since then, I don't get why she is still dating him if she says he is more like a friend then a lover to her.So the other day, i gave her the choice to break up with him and let me give her one more chance. Or stay with him and be done with me. I told her i'd give her until 5:30 the next day, She agreed(after negotiation)She decided to break up with him, But the problem is, She did it and gave me an answer after 5:30, Around 6:20ish. So now i don't know if i should denounce my relationship with my current gf, who is a good gf and i'm content with, Or leave her and go back to my ex even tho she didn't do what she was supposed to again and made me wait even longer, again. and i'm still in love with. What do i do?
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reader, xnickx +, writes (10 November 2009):
 Needless to say, one more reason you should NOT leave her for your ex. She's just messin with ya man. Enjoy the beautiful girl you have.Maybe i should give you some examples why not.Not my last ex, but the girl before her told me frequently that she woke up in the middle of the night and cried about me. I gave in, and two weeks later i found out she was dating a 24 yr old guy behind my back. Yeah, we were both 16 at the time.My last girlfriend told me before we dated that she had a dream that i was some successful doctor and we had a house and a family together. Again, i gave in. Now this girl was sweet, but it still didnt last long, and now we dont talk.Don't take the girl you have now for granted. appreciate her, and treat her like she was the only girl in the world. trust me, if you dont, you'll probably end up regretting it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni just found out today, My ex told me she left her bf, but i talked to him, & she never even left him! this upsets me cause she told me on the phone, "i could prove to you that i broke up with him yesterday by giving you a kiss. & i'm straight edge so thats something i wouldn't lie about." So is she just messing with me? or is she not real with her straight edge ideals she claims to have? She said she wakes up in the night & cries cause she thinks/dreams of me? Should i give her a chance cause of that? or is it just best to stay with my current gf, who i am still vary content with, & i love dearly.
& in response to the vary first reply. My current GF knows of the entire situation, i told her, & she is fine with me still.
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reader, xnickx +, writes (10 November 2009):
I must say you've put yourself in quite a situation.
If you are with your girl now and its fine, dont ruin it. Can't fix what's not broken, you can only ruin it.
Your ex is playing you. I was your age not to long ago, and girls at your age have a hard time making up their minds. Just know this, what ever your choice, dont plan on being able to go back after the other one.
My opinion: Stay with your girl.
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reader, JustMe1234  +, writes (9 November 2009):
Hi it sounds to me like your ex is messing you about and only wants you because you are with someone else. Who's to say she wont finish it with you once you have finished it with this other girl, and then you will be left on your own without any of these girls. Whatever you decide, i hope you do it soon because this new girfriend will end up getting hurt and doesn't deserve that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): knowing what you know about both girls.. if you were a single guy and both wanted you, who would you choose? I think that tells what you need to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): Leave them both. You really need some time on your own.
Your current girlfriend you have now betrayed her, so you dont deserve her. If you still want her you need to tell her what you promised your ex and see if she will forgive you and still wanna be with you.
About your ex: she's been playing you along. She doesnt dsound serious at all, she just wanted you because you were taken.
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