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writes:i'm15. been dating this guy for a few months now. i love him soooo much but he calls me like everyday and like sumtimes more than once a day! he also expects me 2 phone him all the time, but i am the kinda gal who likes texting instead. its not that i have anything against him just that i don reli like those awkward silences. he thinks i am not putting enough effort into this and that i dont wanna speak 2 him. what can i do in a situation like this ??
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (8 March 2007):
You might want to think about why you don't like "awkward" silences.
When you have a conversation with someone, you're not supposed to talk constantly with no gaps. Sometimes you have to think about what to say in answer to something. Sometimes a topic has finished and it takes a little time for a mental gear change before you or he brings up a new topic of conversation.
All your life you will have to talk to people, at work, in relationships, with friends, and these gaps will always arise.
My suggestion is you get used to seeing them not as awkward but as thoughtfulness and get rid of this problem of yours that way.
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 Tell him that you know when you text him its for his eyes only but that when you talk on the phone others overhear your conversation. Also its alot cheaper to text and much more convenient for you.
Aunty t
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): Tell him that if your mobile is off he'll be trying to be getting in contact with you for ages with no answer whereas with a text you are bound to get it whenever you switch your mobile on.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (8 March 2007):
 Let him know that calling him is more expensive whereas texts are free. Make a compromise with him and tell him you'll call him one time in the week but you much prefer texting for now as it's more convenient. Maybe once your relationship progresses and you get to know one another better you'll want to call him some more.
Eve
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