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writes:So a couple nights ago I had way too much to drink and I made out with a guy. He seemed gay to me...he was wearing blue eyeshadow and was grinding with other dudes, but he claimed to like girls. I have no idea what came over me, I wasn't even attracted to the guy. It didn't last long but there it is...nothing else happened. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and I feel absolutely awful. I am going to tell him what happened but I was just seeking some wise words...anybody?
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reader, natasia  +, writes (5 September 2010):
 one question: you didn't fancy the guy - you were just drunk and he was there - what is the point of telling your boyfriend and making a huge thing out of this (nothing) ?? it need only be a lesson to you: don't - even if drunk - let yourself do something like this ever again.
i think you should take it on board, keep it to yourself and be a trustworthy girlfriend from now on. i see absolutely zero sense in 'confessing' to your boyfriend. right now you think it will make you feel better, but it won't - it will just destroy the trust between you two.
you should remember it, learn from it, and then forget it. and your boyfriend shouldn't have to be distressed by it, as there is no harm done, and it is YOUR lesson to learn ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): You are being honest and that it's coming from you. If your boyfriend heard about this from someone else, I imagine it would not go down well.
Reassure him that you were convinced that this guy was gay, that you were not attracted to him and that it an accident... Basically, the truth :)
He should be grateful that you are telling him the truth and this shows how much you value your relationship.
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reader, sarahrose20  +, writes (5 September 2010):
dont blame it on the boose n stress the part that you thought he was gay n nothing else happened even tell him thaat he kissed you n you just reacted but you came to n stopped him i say this cuz the exact same thing happened to me were still 2gether have been for 4 years that was 3 yrs ago it happened he was really upset n said we were over but i waited about a week then groveled
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reader, jodieleigh  +, writes (5 September 2010):
 just say you were very drunk and it didn't mean anything. and it made you realize that he's the only guy you want in the world right now. tell him it didn't mean anything and you are willing to do anything for him to trust you again. tell him you had to tell him because you cant lie cause you love him so much and reassure him nothing will ever happen ever again.
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