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writes:Well.. I really wanna have sex with this guy.. and it would mean losing my virginity but I'm scared if the condom splits. I am really really paranoid about it splitting and me ending up with getting pregnant and i cant afford to get pregnant. But i really wankna have sex with him. theres always the pill but i want to get it over counter and I dont know when it comes out... And also i am really really self concious about down there... =[help please
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): don't worry.. there's alot of girls who are very self-conscience about "down there" lol no sweat.. the thing is .. why do you have to have sex if your not ready for the consequences? plus.. if your not in love with him why risk it?
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reader, superhoopschick +, writes (25 December 2007):
 First, ask yourself if you love him. Because some guys would have sex with you because u are a women that is advailable or just has the body and will say things to get there. Just make sure u care enough for each other. And im certain u dnt wanna lecture so im not going to like the rest will. Just listen...u wanna do it do it. Jst be safe..get on the pill because u can never go wrong. birthcontrol is really good, also because it can help if u have acne n other health issues. And no it does not cause weight gain, that is a myth....condoms are good to use with it because they prevent stds n other infections.
birthcontrol over the counter is not always as safe..I suggest u jst pick up pills frm a doctor..its cheap, ur parents dnt have to know, no one has to know..and u will b safer..its easy..
Try to pick up confidence with ur body. if ur really scared dont have sex..if u wanna try it..talk to him, tell him ur nervous. He will understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2007): Firstly, it appears you have your heart set on losing your virginity to this guy, and I praise you for having the sense to use protection.Condoms are 99.9% effective, and yes there's always the other 0.1% but those chances are very slim and are only mentioned on the packet so for the rare case where it does split, the government don't get sued for false advertisement. If you are still unsure, there's always the morning after pill. I wouldnt advise you use it often as it may cause side effects but just to be on the safe side.Finally you mention that you are self conscious about down there, you must ask yourself that if you arent confident enough for this boy to see "down there" are you confident enough to have sex with him? Having sex is a big thing, and you must make sure you are completely comfortable.I hope I have helped
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reader, daletom +, writes (24 December 2007):
If you're bothered that much by the possible consequences then you're not ready to have sex. And you are right to be concerned - young people, ESPECIALLY inexperienced young people, often don't use condoms correctly. Pregnancy and diseases are VERY REAL problems that need to be considered in any kind of sexual activity, but condoms are not the only answer. In your situation, and at your age, they may not even be a very good answer.Similar comments apply to your embarrassment. If you're not ready to have your partner see you naked, you're probably not ready to have sex with him. Stick with the non-coital activities (necking, petting, outercourse, or whatever it's called among your friends) for a while longer.
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