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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi, i seem to be in a bit of a dilema at the moment. My partner/fiance of five years left me for no apparant reason around two months ago, we have kept in touch every day and yesterday he came to see me. It transpires that he actually left me for another woman ( a 26 year old poledancer)he is 41, he says he saw the glamour and the sparkle and because we were having a few problems at the time thought the grass was greener etc, he said he never told me before as i would go of my head at him and he would lose me forever, i didn't, i tried to understand and was very calm. He now says that as my feelings are still the same for him after he has divulged he feels that he has made a big mistake, he still loves me and realises that he will be giving up a woman that loves him very much, and his home, for a poledancer whom he constantly argues with and lives in a room in a house with, who he thinks he loves but isn't sure if its just the image he is in love with. He says the reason he left is because she said she was pregnant which turned out to be a false alarm, but because he had left and i never knew about the other woman, how could he begin to tell me and asigned himself to the fact that he had lost me as i would hate him when i found out. Now he knows how i feel he has gone away to think about what he really wants in life and where he is going. What do i do, i love him more than anything , he was my whole world, and if he wants to come back shall i take him back or tell him where to get of, and say you made your bed you lie in it. please help...
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reader, christiana  +, writes (28 December 2007):
Do not take him back. If he thought someone else was pregnant that means that he was cheating on you. You deserve much better and you should demand better.Give yourself time to heal and move on.
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