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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Well I've been dating a guy on and off for 4 years 3 of those years it was platonic and it was never serious until this year. Well for me I thought it was. He was dating people on the side which he never told me I found out.We had a long talk about what's going to happen and we agreed to let things blossom between us. So things were going good until I looked on his myspace. It always has pics of him and girls or him and his buddies drinking and he never invites me but he does call me after so he can see me. He calls me on the weekends during the wee hours of the morning. I'm kinda ready just to be with him but he doesn't respond back to my calls when I do call him. I've talked to him about how things need to change and he makes me think that he does understand but I do have hope that he will realize that I'm a keeper but should I wait for him to have his fun? Its been 4yrs. I want someone to want me like I want him. Is it hopeless? Is he going to change? Should I tell him something? What should I do?
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (24 December 2007):
 If this man is out partying without you and with other girls I don't think you are much of a priority for him. If this man calls you in the wee hours and especially if you are his booty call then I do not think he respects you much and I think he considers this a phyical relationship at best. If this man does not return your calls why do you want to put yourself in this position?
I honestly think you are beginning to realize that this is a one sided relationship. You are the only one invested. He is not. You deserve someone who is over the moon for you and who feels the way you do about this guy. Don't waste another day waiting for him and don't shed another tear over him. He's simply not worth it and I don't think he will change, at least not for several years.
The new year is just beginning and what a great time to make a resolution to be kinder to yourself and to get what you want and need out of a relationship.
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