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He changed his pet name for me -- am I overthinking this?

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Question - (3 September 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 3 September 2009)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I know that this question is ridiculous -- I'm embarrassed to ask my friends because I understand how silly it sounds. But the guy I've been dating for a little while has suddenly stopped calling me "sexy" and now calls me "baby" exclusively. We haven't had sex yet, but I can't help but wonder if this is a sign that he now finds me less sexy. Am I overthinking things? What else could this mean?

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A female reader, devastated2008 United States +, writes (3 September 2009):

devastated2008 agony auntCode Warrior is probably right... we women like to over-analyze EVERYTHING... of course I do believe men are often more driven emotionally than they think...only difference is they don't know it. Its true, they definitely do not see any subtle emotional distinctions... that's what they need us for, lol!

Yes definitely do not plan the wedding over "Baby" as a pet name... just enjoy it. And when he changes your pet name to "Twinkle Toes"... I guess we better not conclude that he has a foot fetish... lol!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009):

When a guy starts getting an emotional attachment to you, it feels wrong to him to keep calling you names like "sexy". So, he is changing it up and letting you know that you are his! Guaranteed he still thinks of you as sexy, but now he also likes you enough to call you his "baby". Cute, I'd be flattered by that if I were you.

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A female reader, devastated2008 United States +, writes (3 September 2009):

devastated2008 agony auntI think it means he now sees you as a "keeper"... baby brings up images of protectiveness, caretaking, love, nurturing and committment. (Assuming it is said affectionately and not derogatorily.)

In the beginning he was likely seeing you primarily as a potential sexual partner. He may have also been trying to entice you to have sex with him, by appealing to your sexual side. It may have subconsciously been a test to see if you were a sex partner or a marriage partner.

Obviously all speculation, lol. Ask him.

If I am right, I don't think it means at all that he doesn't still find you sexy... just that you have been shifted from immediate sex to future sex.

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A female reader, SugarCookie United States +, writes (3 September 2009):

The term baby, at least to me is more affectionate. He loves you and the pet name should mean more to you.

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