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writes:I have (had) a best friend and she knew one of my most deepest darkest secrets and she told it to another person. I now have to tell so many lies to others to make sure they dont believe what is the truth. what do i do?? i no longer wanna be friends with my friend anymore because she hurt me badly. like i dont understand why she would tell. she's never told any of my secrets before so why start now. all i wanna honestly do is cry it all out but i know that dont/wont change what was told or what was done.
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reader, trigger18  +, writes (10 January 2010):
hey hunny,
i had an experiance like yours not so long back wen i was in school... we were best friends then all of a sudden she told my biggest secret. the truth is if she really was your best friend she wud have thort about her actions and wudnt have told anyone. the best thing you can do is to walk away from her and if u do stay friends with her then dont tell her anymore of your secrets. me and my best friend did stay friends but as ive grown up ive moved on too. i have several other friends that are much more reliable now and you will too over time. good luck xx
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (10 January 2010):
 I hear ya on that one!
My motto is trust no one and no one can ever dissapoint you!
I dont take this to absolute extremes, but there are only a few people I give no holds barred trust to, ...everyone else can be a friend, can hear certain levels of things about me, but not a confidant when it comes to things that you would not want openly known by anyone.
I would be very cautious tho about confronting your friend coz you dont want to piss her off and give her more ammo to divulge more info. If you must say something, keep calm, and just let her know how much she has hurt you. If you don't provoke anger by going in guns a blazing, you may instead achieve her at least feeling remorse.
I would not have a big, 'I am not your friend' scene with her either, ...just stop calling, stop visiting, speak to her if you must if you run in to her - but make reasons to have to exit the convo asap, and try to just gradually slide out of her world without leaving a wake behind you, or reason for her to retaliate.
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