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writes:I never heard a grown man cry like how I did last night. The father of my child cried in "sympathy" of apologies because of his situation he's in which he created and paved the path. He was kicked out of the military for fratanizing, he has to start all over in finding a job meaning from the bottom toll, I left him because of his lies and cheating ways, verbal abuse, etc. I felt sorry for him however, I don't believe it until his actions meets his words and tears. No one told him to do what he did. My family and friends pretty much dislike him because of what he did, his family (pretty sure) is disappointed in him, his two kids from his previous marriage is looking at their father differently wondering why their father is looking the way he is. Should I feel sorry for this guy? Should I show him some sympathy?
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (17 June 2007):
 The best thing you can do is move on with your 18 month old child. He doesn't seem worthy of you and if he's cheating on you then that says it all. You need to do what is best for you and your daughter. He is responsible for his kids so he should have them. He does sound like a play actor and hasn't been fair to you, he'll only bring you misery. I'd get rid and definitely move on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe has his two kids from his previous marriage by default. They were suppose to reconcile their marriage. During the court date, she was at his apartment w/their kids while he was in court. So, that's how he got his kids. He was in the military until he got kicked out because of fratanizing.
They have always lived with us.
The ages of his two kids is 8 and 15. Our daughter is 18 months.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (16 June 2007):
Why are you looking after his 2 kids from his previous marriage? Have they always lived with you both? How long were you and your ex together? How old are his other 2 kids and how old is your daughter?
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCome to find out early this evening, all of that was an act towards the oscars. Which then he got the nerve to quote a scripture in the bible which is totally hypocritical.
Briefly and short, I had taken the father of my child to court for child custody in which the judge awarded me Sole Physical Custody with Joint Legal and Visitation. He came to place of employment(military installation) of which is harrassed and verbally abused me. I have filed two restraining orders against him on base and off base for the safety of myself and especially my daughter. He also filed for Child Support trying to receive money from me claiming our daughter of custody on his behalf for the whole of May 2007 which was false information. He was using my daughter to receive extra money on his food stamp card. This man has put us in so much pain and burden I had to take up the slack to keep our home and have the main utilities in our home. His two kids from his previous marriage, I also, had to take care of as well. While this is happening, he's out cheating.
So, from last night, his weep towards false remorse is nothing but an act.
So therefore, enough is enough.
Any advice to this.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (16 June 2007):
Sympathy costs nothing! We all make mistakes in our lives. Without knowing more about the situation I can only say there's nothing wrong in feeling sorry for him and telling him you're sorry to hear what happened. Try to help him keep his spirits up and upbuild him more.
Eve
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