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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I really want a boyfriend, its been so long and Im startin to feel lonely. I seem to gt boys attention but all we do is kiss at a party or when I go out but then thats it, and I never really hear back from them. And if we do talk after I always make the effort, its so annoying! What do guys really look for in a girl? But like as a girlfriend?! Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Michael Bo Andersen  +, writes (25 March 2008):
Hello Miss.
I know this through experience, and from my friends:
Guys at this age is rarely mature enough for a lasting relationship, most boys think it's overwhelming with a kiss the first day or two. A hug and some innocent flirting is a very good way to see who likes you and who doesn't. Boys at this age even compete at parties to see who gets most kisses O.o i think its a stupid behaviour. Well back to the topic, start out slowly, talk to them (Guys might not look like they listen, but they realy do) smile as much as you can but not unnaturaly. Give them a hug and a goodbye, ask them if they got a cellphone(mobilephone)number - that is if, you got one yourself. speak alittle with them over SMS's and then ask if you can come over (At his place, guys are realy, realy, realy frightened to go to a girls place before he knows her) act as normal as you can - rest is up to you, from here on, all guys are different.
Hope you could use it
Good luck
Michael
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 You are too young to be 'kissing' in the first place. I know you don't want to hear that, but most boys your age aren't ready for that overbearing behavior. Let 'them' make the move as far as an innocent kiss. Anything more than that isn't appropriate and especially NOT on the first date. Old fashioned? Yep, and rightfully so.
You are probably scaring them off because they aren't ready emotionally or physically for that kind of stuff.
Slow down a bit...you have a lifetime ahead of you.
Gena
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): What do they look for? At your age, they're looking for a kiss, and then never want to see you again basically. Not all guys obviously, but they're just not ready to settle down (most, anyways). I'd advise you stop kissing random boys at random parties, and wait until you see someone you've liked for a while and likes you back. Then you know that you're not just wasting your time kissing them. You'll get a reputation if you just go around kissing! You have your whole life ahead of you. Good luck :]
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