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writes:Okay- I need advise. Might sound trivial but it would be good for me to hear other people's opinions. I was supposed to visit my old city this weekend for a Summerfest. Planned on staying with a friend who told me today he would be out till saturday evening/sunday morning. Needless to say I am really pissed at him because this was something I had been looking forward to for a couple of months. My ex-boyfriend said I could crash with him in our old flat. The thing is our old flatmates also have their friends coming for the Fest and the house will be pretty crowded. We have been broken up since last October and there are no romantic feelings. We're friends now- talk a few times every day. He called me right now to ask what time I'll be there Friday and what he should make for me. Told him I didn't think it would be too comfortable for either of us but he insists he is fine with it. I don't know- maybe I think if I saw him flirting with someone I wouldn't like it or the endless questions from people about why I was sleeping in his room (our break up was bad- multiple cheating on his part) or what if he wants to bring back someone but cannot because of me? Also I thought I would have my other friend to hang out with but now I won't know anyone else at the fest. Don't want to really hang out- hang out with my ex-boyfriend- he practically ignored me at parties when we together so if he does that now it'll remind me of that even though I wouldn't have any reason to expect anything else now! It all sounds crazy, I know, but what do you guys think? Am I just being silly over nothing and should I just go have a fun weekend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): Obviously you want to go to the Summerfest.You said there are no romantic feelings now and you are friends.That sounds good.All you need is someone to be there with you who you get on with.So I don't understand Deema's and Smiles' post. Take a friend or find one when you are there. No problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008): I just would like to ask you this:
Why do you want to hurt yourself by opening old wounds?
Think about it and stay away!
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (10 June 2008):
 Is there anyone else you could take with you? A girl friend, maybe. I'm sure your ex-boyfriend wouldn't mind having two girls in his flat, and it makes the whole thing so much less uncomfortable and more fun if you have a mate with you.
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reader, Deema +, writes (10 June 2008):
 Doesn't sound like it would be fun hun. You've got so many doubts about it all - and you have to listen to those, they're not there by accident. If all your friends aren't going and you're just stuck with someone who's not actually very good for you - why do you want to go? Better to do something you will enjoy and feel good about. You'll also feel good for doing the right thing for yourself, rather than for him, who only messed you around. Think about YOU. x
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