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*omance_boy18
writes:Hi, I'm having trouble opening up to my girlfriend to get her to open up. I always imagine just being totally romantic to her and kissing her passionately but I'm afraid of the out come is what scares me and if I screw up. I feel like such an idiot like when the right time to kiss and hold her is. When I went to go visit her when her mom was gone, she had to clue me in that she wanted me to touch her breasts. seriously! I feel like a loser, she's really shy and she has a hard time being ¨ok¨ with her feelings but by the way we touched and cuddled I know she does love me. Now I just want to know, do I have to open up to her before she can open up to me?
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reader, romance_boy18 +, writes (27 June 2009):
romance_boy18 is verified as being by the original poster of the question she opened up to me! yay! thank u all for your wonderful answers, were closer then ever! i think ive met the one. again, thank you all vary much
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reader, romance_boy18 +, writes (16 March 2009):
romance_boy18 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell i appreciate your answers very much and will try to get her to open up. i remember when me and her were at this dance and i just never wanted to let her go. lol and when we kissed i told her i love her, she said it back! I was like “OMG!! i have butterflies!”. lol sry, i act feminine sometimes
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reader, drgirl  +, writes (16 March 2009):
Well as a girl , I went through what your girlfriend is probably going through. I was very scared to open up to my boyfriend and i was very shy & ofcourse i wanted him to open up first & after he did with time I went ahead & was open with him too.So as a man I think that you should go ahead and open up to her first just be confident of yourself :] you know that she loves you !
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (16 March 2009):
 Hey there,
I agree with Elegabalus. Sometimes you just have to be a little assertive. I'm not saying be aggressive, but asserting yourself will go somewhere in this situation. Most girls feel as awkward as you do making the first move, especially when they're young (and I'm assuming she's under 21 according to your age). If you guys have a solid relationship, you'll be able to feel out if she's ready for something or if you're going too far.
It's important that you ask her to talk to you, to open up and communicate. Because you're not a mind reader, and I don't think anyone expects you to do this alone, groping wildly in the dark. Definitely ask her to tell you what she likes, what she doesn't and if she feels like you're going too far.
I'm sure that you can kiss her with passion and that she will be receptive, especially if she's ready to move to second base. So don't get scared when it comes to grabbing her and kissing her like you mean it - she's into it!! She has given you all the signs! And now you know that her breasts are fair play too, so if you feel like she's into things, go for them. She'll inch away if she's feeling uncomfortable or give you some sort of sign. Before you head south, definitely ask her if it's okay. It's alright to say something like, "is it okay if I touch you (__here__)?", and encourage her to be honest with you. Tell her that you just enjoy being with her and you'll only go as far as she's comfortable with.
Just reassure her that you juts love being with her. If she knows that you're going by her time frame and that you have total respect for her boundaries and body, she should be appreciative enough to give you clues and let you know what her boundaries are.
You sound like a great catch. She's lucky to have a classy guy like you! Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, hecallsmecutie +, writes (16 March 2009):
I think you should go ahead and open up to her. As a woman, I'd like my man to be the aggressive one. Since you said she's kinda shy, I think it's only fair that you do this the old fashioned way, meaning you make the first move.
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reader, Elegabalus +, writes (16 March 2009):
This may be 2009 but I have found from my experiences women still want their men to be men sometimes (and sometimes all the time). Put yourself out there. If she wants you to touch her breasts I doubt she will push you back.
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