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writes:Im so confused......I love my boyfriend, I REALLY do. Id love to someday be his wife but....I have this huge problem....I cant seem to be faithful.The sex is great, our relationship is great, we are best friends and I dont ever want to be without him but Im like a nymphomaniac freak or something !I dont have feelings for anyone else but him, Im not trying to fill some missing part of my relationship I just cant seem to ever get enough sex !Dont even bother suggesting masturbation as a solution as I already do that too just to keep myself from being with every man in sight.....not that I do mind you, I only have one friend with benefits.I know I need to stop before I get caught and lose him but whats wrong with me ????HELP !!
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reader, rcn +, writes (9 September 2007):
 You need to find a real good counselor. You need to sometime involve your boyfriend in your treatment. There is such a thing as having a sexual addiction. My ex-wife had it. It's not fair to your boyfriend to ask him to be your husband, unless your honest with him, and both of you can enter the marriage with a clean slate.I know it's going to be hard to tell him what's going on with you, but it's what he deserves. If you love him, you will, and if you loose him, you do so out of love by being honest.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (9 September 2007):
 Find a good counselor, I think you may be a sex addict. It can be treated. The fact that you recognize your behavior and are unhappy about it, is the first step in making a change. You will need to start a program that will help you deal with sex in a more healthy way so you don't ruin the loving relationships you have in your life. Please seek help at once. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): I think your an sex addict or worse your just not cable of being faithful and that's an major flaw. If you won't get help then I think you should end it with this poor guy, like other men who can't be faithful your better off alone when you can have one night stands and so on. What's the point in being in an relationship if your going to cheat all the time?
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reader, Skeez +, writes (8 September 2007):
 Heya hun..I think your very mature to get yourself some help and advice and im glad you realise what your doing is wrong. Ok so my advice is to go to a counceller or a proffesional. They will probably be able to help you and your high sex drive (if thats what you have, im guessing so).Also perhaps spending more time in the bedroom with your boyfriend will help. Make one particular day the time when you both experiment with new positions and maybe indulge yourself with the 'karma sutra' or another sex book.Also Im sure there are plenty of books out there to which can help you control your sex drive. Also another thing you shoudl do to start your change is by stop seeing this friend with benefits for sex. When you get the urge to remind yourself that you love your partner and imagine all the exiting position you can do together as lovers. and remind yourself that you could easily pass an STD onto your partner and cause serious damage to him.Stop seeing your friend. If he starts getting kinky with you. just walk out. Indulge yourself with a hobby. Start painting. Or running. Or somehting or go to the gym. I am positive you will succeed on this and you will no longer have the desire to have sex with another man.You are in a great reationship lovey and I hope you get the help you deservetake care x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGemini1506 - yes, I have dealt with both before but I think thats just an unfortunate part of life and relationships.jo158 - Oh, its quite spicy, lol....that part isn't an issue at all. Thank you both for the help !:)
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reader, jo158 +, writes (8 September 2007):
Have you spoken to your guy about the sex maybe try and find a way to spice up your sex life it may help!
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reader, Gemini1506 +, writes (8 September 2007):
Hun there is nothing wrong with you! Maybe you should speak to a professional (not tryna say your a nut job or anything) maybe they can dig deep to see why you do it.
Have you been hurt before by someone cheating? Or past commitment issues??
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