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writes:there's something i need to get off my chest, when i was 15 i slept with a 38 year old. i convinced him that i was 18, but i feel so guilty because i know that if anyone found out he could get into trouble.he recently got in touch but i'm so disgusted with what i've done to myself and him i feel i should come clean. cause everytime i look back it makes me feel sick Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn  +, writes (9 September 2007):
 A 15 year old pretending to be older. You see that all the time at the bars. I had a friend who was looking for a girl to take home from the bar, I told him he'd better check ID's before he does. lolNow on a more serious note. What's done has been done. It can't be taken back. We all make mistakes. Most of the time we learn from them and try not to repeat them. If you plan on being in contact with this person, you should come clean. Let him know you made that mistake and how you feel about making it. It's true, he could get into trouble, but the fact is, he did not. It's a big step realizing what you did, and the affect it could have had on others.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): You say you ocnvinced him you were 18 - that sounds to me like he wasn't too sure? Which probably means he really knew, deep down, that you were younger, and in any case at 38 years old he should have know better. Keep this nice and simple - text him to say thanks for getting in touch and you hope he's doing ok, you are with someone else and very happy, wish him well and say goodbye. Then don't have any more contact with him. He doesn't need to be told you were underage. It might make you feel better, but it certainly won't make him feel great (unless he knew all along..). You must stop feeling guilty about this - no-one has been harmed by it and feeling like this isn't doing you any good. You need to avoid contact with him and move on with your life. Put this episode behind you babe, best of luck X
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): I agree. Avoid contact with him. You don't have to "confess" to anyone. Just let him know you are not interested. H---, lie to him. Tell him you are very involved/enganged, now, and you don't need this,..and neither does he. You were "ships that passed in the night"....long ago. But the fleet has come home.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (8 September 2007):
Stay away from him. He should have known better or checked you out better. He is not a responsible guy and maybe not too bright. Do you really want a guy who can be outwitted by a 15 year old girl?
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