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writes: Hello. I'm a girl that has just turned fourteen and im in love with my thirty-two year old teacher. hes really nice and funny and i know theres an eighteen year age gap. I wanted to know: Would it be legal to date him when i leave school?I know it's illegal now but i was wondering in case i ever gather up the courage to ask him.. im quite shy.Many Thanksx
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reader, meyaya14  +, writes (19 September 2010):
Yeahhh! right now i am 14 and i like my 42 year old princepal and he likes me but hey I am telling you right now,DONT get to seriouse ! He has this girl who lives with him they have never dated befor the have kissed 1 time only he said and; this girl is a dumb bitch because thats how i me and him started talking bcuz of this girl her name is pearla she is like 44 me andher became bestfriends and 1 day she pissed me off and i went and started taling to him to make her mad bcuz i new she was like in love with him whatever and me and him started to know 1 another really well, so 1 day she opened her mouth to the cops and told them like we talked all the time and i always was with him so this big investigasion went on and like he omost lost his job and i just kept my mouth shutand denied everything so yeah just lettign you know it you get close to him make sure to let no 1 know bcuz in the end your find out you cant trust NO ONE ! KAYYY(:
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2007): hello anonI completely understand your dilemma i was in your shoes when i was 15 im now 28 and its very hard, I found that talking to boys of my own age helped me forget about this teacher, When you leave school you will do lots of exciting things you will then forget about him, i now see my old teacher out and about with his family and i still think wat was i thinking, fuzz
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007): well for me I'm 18, and I like my 32 year old government teacher, how do you know if they like you like that? J/w, and how would I go aobut asking him out, or finding out how to see if he does really like you? I really like him and im of age so I know it's ok, but im not graduated yet. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2006): Yes I wouldnt do anythign right know if i were u! I to have the same prob but the age is alot less I am 17 and he is 26! Alot of people at school seem aware of the fact that i like him but yeah.. No its still illeageal for u even if u left school u are still to young.
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reader, dreamingwithtearsinmyeyes +, writes (4 December 2006):
 As with almost everyone else, I'm in the same boat too. 17 and in love with my 43 year old teacher. Like the last reader said, only you know if it's a crush or not. I was 14 too and had feelings for a different 39/40 year old teacher. Eighth grade. He said it wasn't moral or ethical, and that he couldn't do it. But he did...we wrote back and forth, shared our experiences that way. Didn't do anything. Parents found out after several months. It wasn't pretty. Court was involved, I had to get interviewed, police station, restraining order, therapist, DCFS, provide a whole account of it, etc. He was married with two kids...lost his job, teaching license...don't know what happened with his family...By that time I was a freshman in high school, and people kept asking me about it... I don't know...could you handle that if you made a move now? I'm not saying you will, but just be aware that this could happen. And there could still be consequences if you wait. Make sure you know what you're getting into if you do wait it out...good luck! And good luck to the rest of you all out there! ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): heya...im 15 n i truly love my 39 yr old pe teacher.felt this way for 3 years...turned away everyboy tht came near me since then yet everybody says 'its a crush!' ..pah!...wat do they know?...ive had boyfirends b4 n nufin compares to my teacher...wen love hits ya...its hits u hard like a crowbar bein smasked acorss ya hed a few hundred times everytime i think bout him.
ive became obsessed now now so much bout him...its affected my very good reputation at skool...but i really dnt care...i just wanna pluck up the courage just to tell him how i feel but i cant put anything into words...its so hard...he is married and had 2 daughters. it amkes it hurt even more...you see all these films on telly bout an outcast fallin for the school beauty...it makes u feel sick because its a load of rubbish
everyone on here is tellin u that its a crush..only you know if it is or not...you only live once...do wat u want...if he is wat floats ur boat then go for it...just remember there may be consequences...maybe you should talk to him in privaten just tell him how you feel but dnt expect anything back because you will be so disspaointed if things go wrong...and if you do care bout him dont try anything with him or let anything go public it only takes a rumor to start for him to loose his job...
i wish you all the luck i can give n i hope things work out for you!!!!!!!!
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reader, ilovehimso +, writes (22 November 2006):
thanks alot for all your help everyone. really appreciated. it may be a crush.. but at the moment it seems real .. well thats really up to you whatever you think it is! honkifuluvnicole, thanks you helped alot! good luck with him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2006): What you have is a "crush" on your teacher. I think probably the majority of girls your age experience some sort of attraction toward male teachers. It happened when I was your age with the girls with whom I went to school. They would giggle and pass notes about the current "hottie" teacher. It's all part of growing up and discovering these feelings.
By the time you are ready to graduate from high school, you will have outgrown this crush. You are talking about four years from now. A great deal will change about you and your beliefs.
I don't think you are thinking of the consequences if you decide to act on your desires.
No, no, no, no. Remember, it's a crush, you will outgrow it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2006): In four years (if you've left school), you can make him your man. If in four years time you haven't found a substitute for him then you've wasted a lot of time (besides, he may only like little kids and at 18, you'll be too old for him).
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reader, honkifuluvnicole +, writes (16 November 2006):
 Wow...Im in the exact same situation. Im 16 and in love with my 47 year old teacher. Everyone tells me its a crush...but I believe its love...if not love, then extreme lust. I fantisize about him. He is on my mind all the time.
Well...back to your issue...yes, you can technically be with him when you are 18...no one can stop you. So just see if he will wait for you.
I wish mine would wait for me. He is married though:(:(: Im still in love with him so you arent alone!!!!
good luck babe!!
if you ever want to talk to me....I would love to talk to you and share some ideas with you....message me!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2006): i was once in ur situation, i swore blind i was in love so much so that it hurt to be in his classes. trust me when i say that if you still have feelings for your teacher when you are of age and no longer being taught by them then it is possible. do they feel the same for you? please dont rush into any decisions. you will go through so many changes, body and mind that you may feel different later. dont take this the wrong way but you may just want the things you cant have,you want, when you can have them you wont want them.
i hope that my experience has helped you, and a word of warning, teachers hold a great responsibility and trust, big problems could stem from this if students get too close.
i dont regret not saying anything to my teacher. i found real love recently and its so diferent than what i thought it to be. good luck with finding your real love xxx
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