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writes:I need to find the courage to leave my boyfriend. Can anybody out there relate? We've been together 5 years and lived together for 3.I know I sound absolutely awful, but I keep thinking about how awkward the whole thing will be. We live together and we've signed a lease that we can't get out of until next year. I don't know where I would live, and I don't fancy living all alone.Sometimes I wish he would break up with me. I don't want to look like the bad person.I'm also scared about being by myself. I have friends, but it's not the same as living with someone who's there all the time. I also wonder if I will ever meet someone else, and if I'm too much of a romantic and that all relationships end up like this eventually. Reply to this Question
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reader, Miss-Morphine +, writes (25 September 2008):
 ell all i can suggest is you tell your partner you want to break up
and dont use the typical lines 'i think its better if we're freinds'
or whatever
it dosnt go down well
be completely honest about your reasons,
and try not to worry too much about being alone,
having a freind stay over for the first few days could make it a little easier
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reader, NoProblem +, writes (10 August 2008):
 Well break-ups are never easy and especially if its been a long time. However, the longer the wait and worry the harder it is to come around to tell your partner.Break-up with someone is always awkard no matter where when or what time. Most people feel gulity and mean when breaking up with their partner but try to think of it they longer you leave it the harder it will be on them.You will not look like a bad person for break-up with your partner because if you are not happy it is not your fault it just right between the both of you. So as soon as the partner is told the easier it will be for both of you.Having feeling lonely it happens and you will find someone it just takes time. However, if you wish not to stay with friends when you have told your partner ask your partner if you could share the flat until one of you get some where you are comfortable alot of people do this and it works.Good luck and look forward to a follow up.
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reader, Deema +, writes (10 August 2008):
 Breaking up is shit. There is no easy way. Even how to start to say it is difficult, especially if the other has no idea how you feel. But don't worry. Time will make it happen. You will just wake up one morning and think I can't do this another day, until that time stop worrying. It will happen in a way thats best for you. Good luck.
Cupid guy - bless you honey, you are right, we all expect far too much of each other without communicating what we want. We expect the other to know. Go on showing her and asking her to show you. Its great, its healthy and its right (in my eyes). !!
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reader, superrrshawna  +, writes (10 August 2008):
 is this a definite break up? have you talked to him about it and tried to compromise and work things out first? after 5 years together, maybe you two owe it to yourselves and each other to try and resolve differences?
if you have and nothing has worked, then slowly separating your lives would seem logical. slowly start moving your things back to your parents house, a friends house, a new apartment, storage. start going out nights and making new friends...
it seems like you are stuck living with him, but you will need to find some way to make it into a "just friends" scenario for the next year or so.
and honey, don't worry about meeting new people! with the billions out there, there is bound to be someone perfect for your friendship and your love!
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