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writes:Hi, I really need some help. I'm pregnant, 7 months and I'm feeling really pushed away but my partner. He says it's the pregnacy but I swear he's bipolar or something, he's nice one minute and being a smart ass the next.I feel like I can't talk to him very much and I am very sentive going thru the emotions but I've had a terrible time being pregnant. I'm on medication to stop contractions and full bed rest now, tried having the baby twice and was admitted into the hospital because strong contractions and my cervics is 100% thinned but I'm closed so I got sent home after a few days and I worried about the baby. Also I feel as my relationship isn't what I thought it would be, we have been together 1 year and the baby was a surprise but we're both thrilled by our little girl. I know men are more likely to get really attached when their born then pregnant but he's attached just not as much as I think he could be. We still have a lot to buy and do before she gets here and he thinks we have all the time in the world.He's a bit of a joker cause he doesn't want to upset me or fight but because of this we haven't had a real sit down convertsation in months, I need to know where we're going, I'm so lost. How do I sit him down and get him to talk to me? Also his mom is staying with us because he works a lot and I have to have someone help me a lot as the medication keeps me dizzy. I'm lucky to have her clean and cook, I hate she has to do so much... so we don't get much time alone you see. What do I do ?If you want to know more details just ask, I'm so upset I really don't know what to say... Reply to this Question
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reader, prego_18 +, writes (17 January 2009):
prego_18 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for all your post it made me feel abit better,
we had a talk last night and i think he some what understands but its hard for him to just sit and talk to me he listens doesnt say much back then its like ok are we done and i love you makes everything better
i really need to feel like we still connect, things have been really falling apart. im not sure what to do i see him for maybe 3 hours as he works nights 6pm to 2:30am he leaves at 4:30 to work comes home by 3:30 and sleeps till 2pm gets up and the only time i see him is sat and sun
he dont call while on break or nothing we use to talk all the time i really dont understand what is going on
i really feel pushed away
oct.08 he went nights at hes job but he didnt even talk to me about it like he did before and ive asked him to go back to days as we had more time for eachother and with the baby coming but he didnt want to
but finally asked his boss for days again and hes boss said hes working on it but needs him on nights intill he can work it out
im very confussed, i feel he loves me but like something is now missing and not just when i was on bed rest but before
he has been known to cheat bad in past relationships
in the beg. of our relationship he was telling an ex he still loved her thru a secret phone but we got thru it and he had been faithful but now im thinking he might be over stressed and looking for attention some where eles
i dont want to think this but hes really put me in the dark latly and cant seem to get him to just sit down and talk
he still holds me at night and says he loves me and i hope im really wrong i just really dont know what to do
im not trying to stress out i try to relax but i feel so depressed and heart broken
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (16 January 2009):
 Oh sweetheart
You no its horrible when your pregnant and things are not going smoothly its at this time you need love and affection and just to no you are being understood in the way you are feeling.
If your guy is working long hours then he is probably tired so the best time to have a talk would be when he is refreshed. A day off just say to him to pop his arse down and please can you just have a chat, You have a few things on your mind and could he help put your mind at rest..Its hard for the partner to understand just what your feeling so you do have to tell him love, I understand that its even more frustrating if they wont listen and just walk off as well. That wont help your situation so as to not get into an argument or upset try and do it in a relaxed way even if you feel frustrated hunny..Having his mum there is great she is helping but also I understand that you probably feel pretty useless right now, This is how I felt when I had to go into hospital for my second all the time and the help is very much appreciated but it can also get you down. Because you want to do things for yourself and be fit to do them.. You need to find some gap where you can spend a little time just the two of you and talk, Can you confide in his mum love as that would be a help if she understood how you were feeling.
If you need a chit chat I'm here message me hunny we can talk for as long as you need, Hope I've helped a little TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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