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writes:Hey :)Okay so there is this boy who I really like, and I think I may be in love with him :S He is probably my best guy friend, but the problem is he thinks I am immature and "stupid" - I know he still is extremely fond of me, but how do I prove him wrong? Yes, I am fairly... odd and I often have blonde moments. But how do I prove get him to realise who I truly am? I am not ready to ask if he wants to hang out, although we spent thursday evenings together at a club, this is how we met. Also, I asked one of my guy friends and he said to flirt with him. But there's one problem... I have no idea how to flirt!! I always just end up making the guy laugh, which IS good, but it's not exactly flirting haha. So can you give me some tips on how do flirt?Thanks in advanced! :)
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reader, Emjo +, writes (23 June 2009):
 I agree with doesntmatter, flirting come naturaly, i guess the only way to learn is by watching other people, understanding what makes a boy tick and being friendly and nice. It sort of just happens...
Also just to mention if he's your best guy friend but you darent even ask him to hang out how well does this define your relationship? You need to be brave, be adult about things, dont be outrageous just to get his attention, just be yourself and if he doesnt like you for you hes not worth the effort, yes this did take me 3 years to work out so im advising you listen to save yourself a lot of time and heartache in the near future.
He insults you by calling you immature and stupid, neither are very nice to hear, you might not be he may just be looking for an excuse, also im not sure of ages but maybe this is how he expresses he thinks your too young for him?
Also a lot of people who go around calling others immature for very little reason are usually more immature about matters themselves, so just watch out for this!
Hmm now back to the flirting, depending on how confident the boy is you could use things like negs.. these are insults but not nasty just niggily, take something he's usually proud of or maybe something he's really bad at and rip it to bits in a playful way... i do this a lot, even to my friends, it creates friendly banter but you have to be prepared for them to hit back at you. IF he sings you can try simple things like "you'll never be a singer will you" however you do need to team these with the right tone of voice and body language so he doesnt think your being sincere.
Also touching him. Tapping his arm as he talks (obviously in contexct not just randomly), resting your head on his shoulder and whining that your tired, wiping sleep from his eye. These create a physical connection and he will get usedc to you being around him and being somewhat close to him however again these depend highly on context and how close you are/how into you he is... if some randomer came up to you and rested their head on your shoulder you'd be a bit confused right?
Also laughing, but in a girly way, like a soft but not annoying giggle, play up your femininity, play with your hair, be scared of things, be easily offended just keep it in a nice balance with smiling and keeping things light hearted, you cant have him thinking your moody now can you ;)
The best way i'd say to flirt is by keeping the mood friendly and the atmosphere free, you both need to feel comfortable around eachother, this is the key!
Flirting efficviely does take practice.. maybe practice with a guy in your class or something first to make sure you get it right?
Good luck!
Em x
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reader, doesntmatter  +, writes (22 June 2009):
You can't really do anything particular to flirt. people call me a flirt all the time and i don't even realize i'm doing it. it comes naturally. just make him laugh and be yourself. if he doesn't like you for who you are thats his fault. just make him laugh and touch him and stuff. be friendly. and don't be afraid to ask him to hang !
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