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writes:I'm in my mid 20's. Me and my girlfriend "V" have been going out for almost 5 years. I love her with all my heart. we're pretty serious, and it's generally accepted by everyone we're going to be married. we talk about it. as soon as we both get our lives/careers straight, we'd start planning.recently, a co-worker of ours from about 3 years ago, "C", has been talking to me a lot more on the facebook. she worked at the same desk in my department. she just has one of those personalities when right as you meet her, you feel like you've known her for years. we quickly became friends as we had a lot in common: hobbies, music, and knew a lot of the same people growing up. if i wasn't already with V, i would have def asked her out. i was able to hide my feelings, but V said she could tell that C liked me, "from the way she looked at [me]." C moved, but we stayed in touch.recently, me and V played a little joke on "M," another girl who worked in V's department, and pretended we broke up. M is still really good friends with C and told her. apparently ever since she moved, C still thought about me. now she's talking to me thinking i'm single and it got me thinking. i love V, and i would want to spend the rest of my life with her, and wouldn't do anything to hurt her, but i find myself thinking about C a lot. V's cute, but C's pretty smokin'. it might just be the "forbidden fruit" syndrome, and it may be just lust and not love (too early to tell), but i'm just confused and not sure what i should do.do i stop talking to C? do i test the waters? do i get drunk and cheat on V?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): I think V sounds like a great girl and you guys don't seem to have problems. C sounds nice but you don't really know her, and yeah it might be that forbidden fruit. As I saw in a movie once "Why ruin a good thing?". Stick with V and control those man-urges to test the waters. I don't think it is worth it...and you have no idea how good you have it ^^
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): stop talking to 'c' see how you feel in a few months of no contact, and if you still feel doubtfull about your current girlfriend then do the decent thing and let her go and give her the chance to meet someone who loves her 100%.But i have a feeling the thing with the other girl is lust, and should you follow up on it, you will look back and see just what you lost if you give up your girlfriend.Think carefully
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reader, PVT_Jersey +, writes (23 June 2009):
PVT_Jersey is verified as being by the original poster of the question...anybody?
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