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writes:ok so me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 2 years in the first year she cheated and lied to me alot i caught her in all the lies and cheating she has done. its been almost a year now sense all that happened as far as i know she hasnt cheated on me but my mind always tells me not to trust her and im always worried and i guess i try to control her because im scared of being hurt again. we are on a break right now because we would always fight over me not trusting her and we both lost alot of feelings for each other we both love each other to death but i just cant seem to trust her.I flip out on her when she hangs with other guys or has a picture of a guy in her cell but all i know is that im messing mine and her future together up and all i want is her, i need to fix this problem. we lost the spark we had and we are both unhappy because of the fighting and i know if i trusted her again we would be perfect like we used to be. i cant lose her over the trust issues so plz give me some tips on fixing my trust issues.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): You deserve better. I think you should break it off with this one. She obviously wants a single life where as you want a trust worthy, non cheating girlfriend.
You've already got in too deep with this girl. The moment she cheated on you should of told her to go else where. I wouldn't waste another second if I was you and let her break your heart even more.
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reader, Lotsalove. +, writes (11 August 2010):
 Why are you trying to fix your trust issues? She's blatently broken them. If anything, She should be the one bending over backwards to make you happy and reassure you she's not doing any wrong.
You said your on a break now, Don't talk to her. Let her make contact with you, let her text you and call you first. If she wants to be with you so much, she'll make the effort. You need to stop doing all the chasing, otherwise she'll think she can keep taking you for a ride.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): I think the best thing to do would be to let it go. Cheating and lying is unforgivable. And cheaters never change.
You love her, yes, but all that is going to happen is you getting hurt even worse.
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