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writes:HeyI'm going through a really bad time at the moment, I've just finished High School and started at college (UK kind of college, not US) and I properly hate it, I'm missing loads of my lessons because I can't be bothered and whenever I think about it I want to burst out crying. I can't drop out though, I want to go to uni so badly and most unis don't accept you on a decent law course without a good few a levels, theres nothing I can do about it and its making me really down.I really like this one boy, and the other day we got into each other at my friends party, I saw him the day after breifly but haven't spoken to him/seen him since. I'm worried because about 3 months ago I was still into a lad I had liked for 2 years. I don't want it to go the same way but it is and I can't help feeling like I'm falling for him badly.My dad might have cancer and the hospital never sent off his tests so he didn't get his results yesterday, instead we're going to have to wait another 3 months. He might lose his job too. All my family are arguing and in the past year I have lost my only two remaining grandparents. Everything is just going so wrong. About a year ago I was very depressed and cut myself most nights. I would hate to go that way again but I don't think I'm going to be able to help it. I need advice and soon. I just need someone to listen to me and tell me what to do. I'm out of ideas for myself.Please help..Thanks.
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reader, darksecretangel +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Hey sorry to hear you are having a bad time, i know how you feel because i used to be like that last year. My advice is just to focus on your work, try to keep your mind of all the bad things because they are going to make you even more depressed than what you probably are at the moment. Sweetie dont add this guy to your amount of problems, just think that if it was ment to be you will see him again, you seem like you know what you want to do, why are you letting yourself down like this. Just think about all the things you could do once you finish, your education. I know its going to be hard for you, but you shouldnt be keeping this all in have you told your friends ? Friends are really good at cheering you up and giving you a laugh when you really need it. Or maybe write your feelings down in a diary, it really helps get all your emotionss out and, i can promise you that you will feel better soon it just takes time really =) good luck xxxx
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reader, rcn  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 You're right, you do have some difficult obstacles going on. Sometimes everything just comes down at once. Do you know what I learned. It's OK if it does. Now I don't know about you, but I don't think people in law practice cutting themselves.
Let me ask you this. When you cut yourself, even if someone does you wrong, who does it affect. Cutting yourself shows a psychological imbalance.
Now when you get up in the morning, get ready for the day, go to school, eat meals, go to bed, who stays with you this whole time? YOU DO, so it's important to keep focused on your mental health because that's the only way you can offer strength to others who may be going through difficulties. As far as dropping out of school. Isn't there a possibility of your dad being ill? If so, what do you think his wishes would be for you? Would he want you to be depressed and end up loosing your Uni opportunity, or would he want to see you succeed and finish your school?
Life is not just about us and what we want. You're focusing on what you want NOW. You're focusing on and allowing a BOY to affect your judgment. Focus on the long term. Take your classes, doing so will also help you keep your mind off other things, go to law classes, meet another law person to merry, and raise a bunch of Jr. law persons.
Law is actually a lot of fun, and it puts you in a position where you can really make positive changes, and benefit many other people.
I hope this little pep talk helps you. Take care.
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