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writes:I have been married to my husband for 14 years but my dear husband has been in prison all those years and a bit more. I met my husband before he went in. He was a good person before he got involved with this girl (she passed away in early 90's) that got him hooked on heroin... He and I didnt see much of each after he met this girl. I didn't know that his life became a life of crime. He did robberies to support their habit. He went away in 1992. She died in 1993. Long story short. He was suppose to come home in 2002 but another case came up in 95 and he didnt take the plea bargain because his co defendant from the 1st case was not at this other incident my husband thought the witnesses would know that his co defendant was not there and it was someone else giving the jury reasonable doubt. With no paid attornies they both got convicted and my husband has parole the end of 2015. He will be 55 when he comes home. During the beginning of our relationship he was still using in the mid 90's but he overdosed and that is when he felt Jesus putting his hand on his heart and my husband cried and cried (he was in the hospital for 3 days) and that was the end of the drugs for him. He went to the box for 2 years (solitary) and that is when he realized he had to stop. I had left him for this time to work out of state but we kepted in contact for the 2 years. During these 2 years an old flame of his stepped in. We met and while I was living out of state she emailed me back and forth and always said he still loves you. When I moved back I use to visit him once a month and we developed a friendship that we never had before. Yeah, we loved one another but I didnt know why I married him in there and then knew he would be facing a long time if he got sentenced for his 2nd offense. ---------------------------------When he told his old flame that he still loved me and he really thought he could rebuilt a relationship with her he was wrong because they were two different people. They dated in the mid 70's and that was his first love.He wrote me. He sent me letters and cards saying I still love you. I was a fool but I will never be fooled again. When we got back together in the beginning of 2002 for many years everything was perfect. Then my husband had an accident. 400lbs of metal while he was working out at the heavy bag fell on top of him because the pole snapped in 1/2. The facility knew about this and never replaced it.... Guess who comes out of the woodworks... His ex wife. He was married to her from 1985 to 1990... He has 2 kids with her. He calls there to see how his kids are doing because I told him get to know them even though they are in their early 20's. My husband smokes. He rolls his cigerettes from tops tobacco. He smokes about 20 a day. When I am alone with him he is always lighting up. Because of the injury 8 months later he started to have seizures and is on medication for the rest of his life. All his friends and cousins disappeared. He only talks to his kids once in a while when they are home or his ex once in a while and me almost every night. His mom is still living but on the west coast and is 82. His dad just recently past away and I feel so bad for my husband because there is no way of getting him home earlier for better medical care. When he called me last night he said that he first called me at 8p and I wasn't home and he couldn't breathe then when he called at 930p saying it was worse when he first called. I said what is wrong with you. Do you want to kill yourself. What about our future plans. You need to stop smoking. I said what else can I do for you. He said you are doing everything for me . I still feel that i am not enough but he says I am. He said he is a little depressed.. I just want to scream because I have no control.What would you do for your husband if this was happening to you? Any advice I would appreciate.
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reader, joesgirl +, writes (21 April 2009):
 I'm really sorry to hear your story..Having many people in and out of the correctional system one thing is, if you don't speak for the inmate, the state and the correctioanl facility won't do anything..Most because they know alot of people locked up don't have love ones who are by there side..You deff. need to get ahold of the warden, the nurse, and the big guy who is in charge of all the prisons in your area. hope that helps
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reader, Valyda  +, writes (13 March 2009):
I am sorry to read your story, be there for him. Never stop...love is the toughest thing you will ever work for but at the end the reward is great. Contact anyone you think could help and mostly be there as his wife and friend. help him hang in there and at the end you guys can build a better future for yourself. Your lives are not over you can still make the most out of it!
Take care!
V.
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reader, uluvme0723 +, writes (11 March 2009):
 You need to speak to someone in charge at the prison and let them know ur husband is very sick n he needs medical attention. They can't deny him that. He has no voice, no one there is really going to listen to him. But you do. Start calling around. Speak to the warden. Call who evers the wardens boss. Do what you have to do to keep ur husband alive s u can see him walk out those gates in a few days
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