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writes:My boyfriend of years broke up with me over a day ago. He's just started uni and i'm in my second year (he had gap year); he's finding studying really difficult (not realy cut out for uni) and spends literally 24/7 doing work and so the last few weeks have only been seeing each other a few hours a week which i have been unhappy with and he picked up on it which made him really unhappy and moody (because he couldn't do anything about it). And said that he "doesn't want us to end up hating each other because of it and would rather end on a good note and it's really unfair on someone, especially you to not be able to see you because relationships take work". He said he can't be in a relationship with anyone right not because of his work. And everything else is going so amazingly and that's the only reason he's breaking up and really wants us to stay in contact and be friends. I just have no idea what to think. I'm hoping that it's just a bit of space so we can concentrate on work for a while, he can have time to get into uni and he'll miss me in the holidays (in a couple of weeks) and we'll meet and get back together. Also he's still hept his facebook as "in a relationship". In a way i'm soo glad he's still saying that but if he's defenate about not being together i wish he would just change it now so i can cry and heal. It's just really confused me, i've enver felt so horrible. Any advise??? I obviously want to get back together. And no there's no-one else; i know for sure, too long to explain.
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (11 March 2009):
 Just give him some space. He's trying to figure out how everything in his life is going to work out, and it sounds like he doesn't want to hurt you if things get too stressful.
It's like the old saying goes, "If you love something let it go, and if it comes back to you, then you know it's yours". You just need to let him adjust. If he comes back, great, if not, then find someone willing to give you time. I know it sounds hard, but it's really for the best.
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