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writes: My parents don't approve of me dating my current boyfriend. I am 17 and he is 19. For some reason they have a big problem with that and always bring it up when they fight with me about him. He is the love of my life...and I'm not just saying that! I've known him for a year and didn't even start dating him til 2 months ago. I really wish they would let me have some freedom and not always restrict me in everything I do. I can't stay out past 11pm...I don't have a car cuz they won't let me drive or get my license, and I pay for everything. They neeed to let me have a life! I'm leaving in a year. How can I get my parents to understand that me and my boyfriend are in a serious relationship that isn't just going to give up over their opinions? Reply to this Question
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reader, Natalie-x +, writes (9 July 2006):
 This is a sticky situation. You have to understand that your parents probably want to protect you from adulthood. But they must understand that you're in love.
Why not suggest inviting round to meet your parents? Show them how serious you two are, and that your boyfriends a good guy.
You can't stop loving someone just because they don't approve. But it sounds to me like they dont want to let their little girl go. As for not being allowed a car, tell them you don't want to have to depend on their car or the bus ect.. to get you places. You need your freedom.
Make sure they know exactly how you feel. Try and ask them how they would feel if someone were to disapprove of them being together. I hope everything works out for the best!
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (9 July 2006):
 Hey,
I'm afraid there is no easy quick fix option here. It's all going to take some time. I know it's fustrating - trust me, I've been there. But just stop and see it from their point of veiw for a second, their little, baby girl of only 17 is dating a big boy of 19 and wanting to spend more and more time with him. What is he hurts her? What if we loose her? etc etc etc.
You've got to see that you're still their baby girl and probably always will be. They want to prtoect you and keep you safe from the big wide world. To them, you're probably growing up really quickly and perhaps it might be a bit scary for them that you want to be indepndant? They just want to keep you from getting hurt. Why don't you get your boyfriend and yourparents to talk, without you there and see if him talking to them makes them understand that he won't hurt you and you mean the World to him and he'll keep you safe?
Hope this helped,
Phoebe
xxx
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