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writes: Does any one know anything about Multiple sclerosis I read some stuff on the wikipedia site, however I was wondering if it was genetic. Particularly if my boyfriend has it what are the risks that any children may also carry the disease? ANd would I be judged as unfeeling if I left him because he is sick? Reply to this Question
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reader, pica +, writes (14 July 2006):
I think the anonymous poster is being too harsh. You might just have met this guy last week for all we know. I don't think you're being selfish - sometimes in life you have to put yourself first, for other people's benefit too. At least you are being honest. That you can't cope with the long-term implications of MS is hard but real. He unfortunately will have no choice so for that reason I say finish with him now and let him have a life with people who want to support him, not someone who's just doing the 'right thing'.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (13 July 2006):
 Everything you could ever need to know about this disorder can be found here: http://www.mssociety.org.uk/
The exact cause of MS is unknown but it is a neurological disorder affecting the brain and spinal cord. There are a whole host of side effects but not everyone gets all the side-effects. I know two people who have MS and both of them have led full and active professional lives. One did have some symptoms from her 50's onwards - impaired motor control of her left leg. It is not genetic in the sense of because of parents has it, a child will definitely get it. There is some research suggesting that a predisposition towards immune and inflammatory-type conditions may increase the odds of you acquiring MS (so you may inherit a general weakness towards a range of conditions). However, MS is still one of those disorders that not a lot is known about! Read the website.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2006): The question really is, Do you love him? If the answer is yes then it shouldn't matter if he's ill. You would be there for him no matter what. Your love for him can't be that great otherwise you would not even consider leaving him. I'm sorry for sonding like a cow but I feel sorry for the bloke, you are obviously more concerned about yourself than your man who is very ill. I wouldn't judge you as unfeeling, but as self-centred. If you really love him stay with him, I don't know if it's genetic, but if it is there are other ways to have a child together. The best in my opinion would be adoption, there are children already out there that need a loving family.
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