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writes:Listening to my sister and mom go on about relationships makes any prospect of a fufiling relationship sounds hopeless. I'm feeling down. I hear this soundtrack all the time and it seems everyone is in a bad relationship and it would be foolish to kid yourself otherwise despite how rosy and "deceptive" things may be at first. I feel like a live in a locus of misery with a constant news ticker of how horrible other people are.I have a date on Tuesday. I think this woman is great; I dig her and she really digs me. I've been looking forward to it.Tonight I feel so drained. I honestly can't help but think "what if she's like this?"; "what if her family has this problem?"; "what if she turns out to be crazy?". My ears are poisoned and I feel sad and guilty for thinking such unwarranted thoughts. I've been avaoiding relationships for well over a year under this climate.I would really appreciate any words of encouragement or anything that could help me shift me to some more neutral thoughts. I don't share my dating life with them. I feel a weight on my shoulder.Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks!! We had such a good time. I'm still have those thoughts in my head but your words really help:
"Effort and communication. That's what matters."
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 July 2010):
It is a bit crappy to have parents who are useless together. But, there are plenty of relationships that do work out. What you have to remember is that they take effort. And you also have to remember that if one goes wrong, it won't mean another will. Effort and communication. That's what matters. My mother is always moaning about my father (for good reasons, to be fair). My father is something else all together. And it's pretty daunting at first. But I'm with a really great woman now. Sure, we have a few up and down moments, but we'll talk it through.
You like this girl, she likes you. That's what matters. Talk to her, get to know her, let her get to know you. It will hopefully work out. And if it doesn't, don't sit there bitching like your mother and sister. They'r the ones losing out. Go out and have fun and spoil this girl a bit.
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