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writes: I have a very strong thought about this and we ( My girlfriend and I did it twice in a month ) are pretty unsecure.First of all, we have had sex , very much unprotected and I'm very much aware about it that is wrong, not the fact of having intercourse but the protection.I have discussed this with my doctor and I have an idea of what to do , I would like you please to give me the honest answer as possible, and positive if possible too.. :)We have had twice, sex twice. Where she is not on pill and I didn't used a condom... BUT I was fully aware that is dangerous and I have cum outside, in other words, I took it out before I cum.This questions may be pretty hectic, But help please.1) What can I do to prevent pregnancy ?- I have asked her about the pills but she answered that her sister used it and had a very uncomfortable feeling,that's why she doesn't use it.- I have thought of a condom BUT:2) When I cum, I'm very scared of cumming inside the vagina, even with a condom, Is there any risks if I do ?3) Let's say if you cum, but a bit inside the vagina but you took out and only a bit slipped through ?- I know that it's needed a couple of millions of sperms to form a baby BUT:4) What if I only cum and she doesn't ? 5) Why is it that the vagina, the first time is hard to penetrate, my girlfriend says is very painful, but for me not much at all, so I do take it slowly, but what makes the vagina wet enough to penetrate correctly ?Thank You in advance ,I really need honest info/feedback about this ...Thank You .
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): Hi Anon
I understand that you need alot of advice, and i can give it to you, with not only the truth, but also a postitive answer.
Pregnancy is a big step in life and you need to be prapared for anything that can happen.
How To Get The Vagina Wet?
Prahaps useing sex toys before sexual intercourse
sticking your fingers in her vagina.
Good luck
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (6 July 2005):
If you continue to have unprotected sex, I can GUARANTEE you will become a Daddy in 9 months !Stop messing around and take action NOW.Sex is great, but it carries responsibilities.Education is the best cure for ignorance...read & learn !You don't need millions of sperm to get pregnant..only one.Pulling out before you cum, is dangerous & risky.If you've had a few drinks or passion gets the best of you, ONE SPLIT second is all it takes for a sperm to escape!In regards to your girlfriend not being wet before sex...that is because you have not taken your time to stimulate her.Before jumping her bones & getting your rocks off, be a considerate sensitive lover...prepare her body...caress her breasts, suck her nipples, kiss her deeply again & again...make eye contact...ASK HER what turns her on and do it for her...be oral with her...use your fingers to stimulate her properly...then your efforts will be rewarded and entry to her vagina will be well lubricated.If you care about this lady...DO YOUR HOMEWORK !
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reader, becky05 +, writes (5 July 2005):
Right the answers to your questions first.1)You need to either not have sex or use contraception in order to prevent pregnancy. If she doesnt want to use the pill, there are many other reliable forms of contraception, also, just because her sister used the pill and felt uncomfortable, theres no reason why she should feel the same way, there are many different types of pill available and there will be one to suit everyone.2) the only risk of you cumming in a condom is a 0.01% chance that your girl will get pregnant. Condoms are one of the most reliable forms of contraception.3) It doesnt take millions of sperms to form a baby. It takes one so if some of your come slips out theres still a chance your girlfriend will become pregnant.4) women dont need to cum in order to get pregnant so if she doesnt cum, theres still a chance of pregnancy if yopu dont use contraception. (Women can still enjoy sex without cumming)5) to make the vagina wet, your girlfriend has to be turned on. Dont just jump right in there, play about a bit first and take things slowly and you should be OK.You say you have had unprotected sex with this girl, she must take a pregnancy test as soon as possible. she will get this at the doctors if she goes to ask about contraception or you could buy one from the chemist.Be more careful in future and good luck!!!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (5 July 2005):
 Hi there,
I can answer the questions you've asked, but it sounds like you need to know a lot more about the topic of contraception.
I strongly recommend that you and your girlfriend BOTH read the information on either www.contraception.net, or www.plannedparenthood.org.
Both are good informational sites that won't try to make judgements on you for choosing one thing or the other. (They also don't belong to any organisation that pretends to give you unbiased info, but just wants to influence your decision.)
Regarding your questions: Condoms are a very good (not perfect) contraceptive, because they reduce the risk of getting or giving someone an infection. They DO sometimes break, so they're not perfect. Make sure that you use good quality condoms and that they're not too old, then be sure you hold it and keep it from spilling inside your girlfriend afterwards, and you will usually be OK.
You have lots of options of ways to prevent a pregnancy: condoms, spermacides, oral contraceptives, intrauterine devices, hormonal implants, contraceptive "sponges" and so on. You need to read about them and discuss this with your girlfriend to find something she can use.
DON'T keep trying to have unprotected sex and pulling out before you come, because it's a very good way to get her pregnant!
As far as coming inside your girlfriend, the risks are that the condom might break or split, so there's a chance of pregnancy or a sexual infection, but there aren't any risks other than that.
Yes, a tiny bit of semen is enough to get your girlfriend pregnant. Even one sperm is enough. Remember that every drop of semen has millions of sperm cells in it.
Your girlfriend doesn't need to have an orgasm to get pregnant. A woman's orgasm doesn't have any effect on pregnancy.
The first time your girlfriend had sex, she probably had a band of tissue across the inside of her vagina, (her hymen). It stretches and breaks during sex and that can be uncomfortable. Her vagina would also have been tight (maybe partly from nervousness), but also because it's never had something as big as your penis in it. The stretching of the muscles can hurt a little, though this goes away after a while.
If your girlfriend is pregnant after your recent sex, you need to get a pregnancy test as soon as possible to be sure, then she should get to her GP or sexual health clinic to discuss her options. You will want to go with her. There are too many "what ifs" in your question to give you a precise answer to that.
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