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writes:Help! I have a date on Saturday and I have no idea what to wear. He's taking me to a Christmas concert at a church, it's our second date. And I am totally at a loss. The concert has some really good artists performing, known nation wide. And as it's a date, I should dress up, I think. At first I thought a nice dress and boots and all that, and it looks great! But then I though, what if he shows up in jeans and a sweater? Then I'd be totally overdressed. I tried to google what to wear to such an event, but found NO information. And I've actually never been to a Christmas concert before, so I don't know what is the norm. Should I just dress every day nice? I go to church myself, and when I do I always dress up semi-nice with a skirt and a nice top etc, but not overdoing it. But that's a very formal look, and since it's a date I don't want to look too strict! Should I just ask him what he's going to wear? Help!
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (2 January 2017):
 Sometimes, the direct approach is the best one. :)
My heartfelt congratulations, and my best wishes for a happy 2017 for you both!
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reader, chigirl +, writes (2 January 2017):
chigirl is verified as being by the original poster of the question Fourth and fifth date now completed. The fifth date stretched out into a full weekend and I am happy to say I am no longer single :p
PS. Yes, I was the brave one to ask him how many more dates it would take to get him to be my boyfriend. You gotta ask for what you want!
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reader, chigirl +, writes (21 December 2016):
chigirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThird date over now, and it was just as great :) He drove to my city after work and picked me up from my work and then we went to my place and took the dogs out for a walk (he has a dog as do I). The dogs went along just fine after the initial sniff, and after the walk we went home to me and I made us cocoa and we just talked and played with the dogs and time flew! Suddenly it was way past the time he was supposed to get home, and it takes him probably an hour and a half to drive.... But he said it's worth it to get to see me, he didn't want to have to wait with seeing me.
I followed him to the car to say good-bye, I was going to borrow something that he forgot in the car. And I had been sending out hints of wanting a kiss, yet he hadn't even tried any physical contact all through the date. But I gave him a long hug when we said good-bye, and then I just didn't let go afterwards and looked him in the eyes. I was thinking if he doesn't kiss me, maybe I should just go for it myself, lol! Finally he picked up on the hint or got enough courage I guess, because he leaned in and kissed me.
And he kisses amazingly.. Just the type of kiss I like, soft and tender and we just stood out there on the street with our noses touching and kissing in between and not wanting to leave.
Butterflies in my stomach! I really like this guy....! And now Im super sleepy but my head is spinning so I feel like dancing rather than sleeping, haha!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2016): Woohoo!! So happy for you :) :)
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reader, YouWish +, writes (18 December 2016):
That's fantastic! Made me smile!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 December 2016):
 Sounds like a VERY lovely date and guy. I hope he turns out to be as great as he sounds!
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (18 December 2016):
 I'm happy for you - I hope it keeps going strong! Are you able to visit his city for future dates sometimes? :)
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reader, chigirl +, writes (17 December 2016):
chigirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo you guys wanted to know how it went? It was amazing. Im falling head over heels here. First he comes to pick me up and just takes my arm as we walk to the car (yes, he went out of his car not just sitting in it while waiting for me..) and opens the door for me. Then we have a lot to talk about, never a quiet moment, and he's funny and charming. And when we get to the church of the concert we have some spare time, and he's brought this hot toddy-like Christmas drink for us in a thermos, and ginger bread cookies, and my favourite chocolates too on top of it all.
My heart melts for anyone who gives me chocolate, but my favourite chocolate happens to be Ferrerro Rocher, which is more expensive than regular chocolate, and be bought one of the large boxes of it! I actually did bring him his favourite candy too, haha, and I was thinking of just keeping it in my purse and see how it goes, because it might be a bit too early for gifts, but I gave it too him since he brought me chocolates :) He liked it a lot.
It was all in all a very romantic date, the concert was great, Christmas spirit in heaps, and after he drove me home we just sat in the car and talked for at least 30 minutes, just because I didn't want to leave and he didn't want me to leave either (and he was brave enough to just take my hand and said he'd didn't want me to leave yet).
No kisses. But several hugs. And he smells nice. And did I mention he is handsome.... And he wants to meet again, and drive to see me next week already, mid-week after work since Christmas is next weekend so we'll both be busy with celebrations and family. And he doesn't even live in the same city as me, it's a little more than an hours drive from my city to his. And he'd have to get up extra early to go to work so he could finish early and then drive to see me...
Yes, I know, these are all definite signs he's interested, haha, and it feels GREAT to feel wanted again after a dry spell.. Maybe it's Christmas magic? ;)
And he's a regular church goer (but modern, not conservative), and for me who is religious myself it feels good to be able to share that part of my life.
Im on a pink cloud right now!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 December 2016):
Very cute! Using boots over high heels also tone it down a little from being "too" dressy. Still classy, though.
Hope you have a great date!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 December 2016):
 I like it! Good choice.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 December 2016):
 Thumbs up : very nice !
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reader, chigirl +, writes (16 December 2016):
chigirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis is the dress I had in mind, if links work here... It's dusty pink, looks darker pink in the picture than in real life.
http://i.0oo.se/20/gradina-skjortklanning.jpg
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (16 December 2016):
You need to wear a dress...with colours...or just a plain colour...one to the knees.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (16 December 2016):
Your outfit sounds really nice - good luck!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 December 2016):
I'm sure it'll be a great outfit! I like the idea of the dress and boots. It's all about accessories now. Have fun and let us know how it went!
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reader, chigirl +, writes (15 December 2016):
chigirl is verified as being by the original poster of the question*bring
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reader, chigirl +, writes (15 December 2016):
chigirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks all! And yes, Tisha, I think that is exactly what I will do. And I ended up texting him and asked what to wear, haha! He said he would wear a shirt and tie, so Im definitely going with the cute dress. And will being my jewelry to bring it up a notch if it seems appropriate.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 December 2016):
What is the outfit in your closet that makes you feel amazing? Wear that one! If it's too dressy wear a denim jacket over it. If it's too casual wear a fun funky necklace.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (15 December 2016):
chigirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHaha, now Im even more unsure. I talked to a friend and she said to just wear pants and a nice top. The church is liberal/open to all, so dont think they have any restrictions on what to wear. But I did originally want to wear the cute dress and boots. Its no cleavage and ends right above my knees, so suitable. And if I skip fancy jewelry it looks more toned down + I would have a sweater over that is open in the front. It is sleeveless, hence the sweater.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2016): Wear a nice formal dress with natural makeup so that you won't feel overdressed. If it's an outdoors event then you could pair it with a smart jacket. All the best for your date chigirl! :)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 December 2016):
I would dress up, in a classy way. A nice dress and boots sound great to me. (as long as it's not in the overtly sexy look - it is a church after all) It's not TOO overdressed even if he shows up in jeans and a T-shirt.
And what guy wouldn't appreciate his dating looking smoking hot?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (15 December 2016):
What kind of church, chigirl? Traditionally, a Christmas concert is a dress-up affair, but if this church is a "seeker-friendly" or whatever, the dress code is a bit more relaxed!
Here's a great tip - call this church yourself and ask one of the administrators about it. That is, by far, the best information you will get about how traditional vs. contemporary the church is, and that call will GREATLY put you at ease! You don't have to tell them who you are or why you're going, but that you've been invited there as a first time visitor.
Good luck on your date!
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (15 December 2016):
I think that if he shows up in jeans and sweater... it will be fine anyway ; women are always implicitely allowed to be a bit more dressed up than their date:) , particularly in a holiday season.
And after all, it's still a church, even if not used for a religious service that day. Plus, dressing nice to go see a performance is a dutiful sign of respect for the performers ( well, it depends of course; if it is a heavy metal concert, probably the performers would feel DISrespected if you show up in " little black dress " and string of pearls ). But for a theatre or musical performance, there's nothing wrong in dressing up a bit, and it's not like you are going to wear a sequined ball gown anyway . I'd go definitely with the nice dress and boots, but if you feel more comfortable with " everyday nice ", that works too.
Have fun ! ( and let us know how the date went :)
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